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Our dog pooped on the floor, and my husband...

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#1 ·
...shocked the dog twice with the stun gun!
This happened about 4 hours ago.
This struck me as a little psycho.
He's beaten the dogs in the past...no real injuries or anything, but still...
And now, surprise surprise, they are a little vicious...
(We got the stun gun to separate them when they briefly started brawling).
I'm scared to let the dogs be around the baby, so I have to leave them in our bedroom during the day, and locked out at night.
Ugh...
Am I making a big deal out of nothing?
What am I to do?
 
#3 ·
I totally agree with Kama. Abuse is abuse is abuse. Is he going to behave like this when your child is older and misbehaving? Definately get rid of the dogs. What kind of life do they have always locked up or locked out or physically abused. Besides if they have understandably become "a little vicious" then they are not now and never will be safe around the baby. I would say you are not overreacting you are underreacting!
 
#4 ·
Yes, find a loving home for the dogs and most importantly, please look at your relationship w/dh. Do you feel safe? Do you think he will be a good, nonabusive father to your child? You might want to spend some time talking about this w/a good friend or even a therapist. The way one treats pets is often an indicator of how they will treat others.

Please take care.
 
#5 ·
Um. That's more than a little psycho. Even non "AP" people would find that really bad. I agree that the dogs need to go. Probably to a shelter so they can make sure they're even safe to pass on to another family. If they're a particular breed, go with that breeds rescue organization. As far as the DH goes, at the very least he seriously needs some therapy, and I agree with the above that you need to make sure YOU feel safe. That sounds like a scarry man.
 
#6 ·
You HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME... your husband should be arrested and charged w/ cruelty to animals ASAP. I wouldn't want that man walking down my street- let alone living under my roof.

PLEASE find a safe home for your dogs if you cannot get rid of the idiot within.
 
#8 ·
WHOA! First of all, damage or not, beating the dogs is NOT ok. They will become very viscous. THey need to be evaluted BEFORE you find them a new home, so that they don't bite someone seriously. Rescued dogs often have aggresion problems.

Then, dump the abusive dh! I mean, really, who's idea was the stun gun?! That's outrageous, horrible, for any use. This guy is sick, sick, sick.

And if you can't see how you can ask if you are making a big deal out of nothing. NO. You aren't making a big enough deal out of something appalling.
This is sick and so is the idea of using the stun gun to seperate them.
 
#10 ·
Um, yeah I'd definitely get rid of the dogs. Then I'd pitch the stun gun. Talk to your dh.

Is he normally an angry person? You would think if you were stun gunning an animal they would start to only respond to a stungun. That would scare me. Heck the "viscious" dog scares me enough! We won't even have a cat that is mean.
 
#12 ·
Something is wrong here and more than you are writing. Lets first start with the husband you said he has beaten the dogs in the past like it was no big deal, honey this is abuse and wrong in every sense, he needs to be arrested. How you can stand by and let that happen is beyond me, what if it was your child????. What in gods name would you by a stun gun for to use on dogs anyway, how sick . Back to the husband, if he beats the dogs I have a strong suspiscion(based on the fact I work closely with battered women and children) is that he has at some point hit you, pushed you, beat you. Third why on earth are your dogs locked in your room, what is it about them you don't trust? Did you do proper training before the baby arrived?? For gods sake where do you live so I can come get your dogs myself or send a rescue person to take them. I'm 100% serious about that too. These dogs deserve a million times better. As for yourself you need to really sit down and do some sould searching. Sorry if I come across strong but there's alot more your not writing and I know it..
 
#14 ·
Healthy dogs don't poop in their living space unless they have no other option. So either the dog didn't have any other option (wasn't escorted to an appropriate place in time), or she doesn't think inside is her living space. This often happens with dogs who aren't allowed inside (or out of the basement, or out of their cages, or whose movements are otherwise severely restricted) - they don't see the house as their living space (just because the family lives their doesn't mean they do, if they're not fully integrated into the family), so they have no problems using it as a defecation spot.

Punishing a dog for defecating in a spot you don't like but which is perfectly logical to them is useless (it doesn't work) and worse than that - it trains them not to trust you, which means they will care less about causing harm to protect themselves the next time they're hurt for no discernable reason (to them).

The dogs deserve much, much better than what they're getting with you. Please don't just drop them at the county shelter, but do try to find a no-kill placement for them. Even dogs who have been abused can be rehabilitated and become amazing, wonderful, loving members of the family. Fortunately, the same is true of humans.

Your husband is guilty of animal cruelty and abuse, which has been linked again and again to eventual abuse of human animals, as well as being victims of abuse or neglect themselves in the past. That doesn't necessarily mean that your husband is, or will become, abusive of you or your children, but it is a HUGE red warning flag that you need to pay attention to. Please, please, please, pay attention to it.
 
#15 ·
Kellyb,

I appreciate your seeking advice on this situation. What your husband did is abuse and cruelty to animals, and it's against the law. It is absolutely unacceptable to use a stun gun on a dog, or to beat them for any reason. You literally do not have the right to allow these animals to be abused in this fashion.

Your husband needs immediate pyschiatric help. There is nothing "normal" about what he has done.
 
#16 ·
I'm sorry for your situation


I just wanted to share that my father kicked our dog when I was about 5 or 6. He was very upset because the dog pooped inside (or something along htose lines). We had had dogs since I was a baby...but this was the first time my dad reacted like this (and the last...my mom probably laid into him once I was in bed or playing at my friends)...but I remember it till this day and it made me soooo sad...hearing the dog yelp and my dad be so angry....I would remedy this situation however you feel is best before your baby is of age that he/she will have a memory like this...

Plus thos puppies don't deserve that kind of existence...there comes a point at which letting them go is better for everyone.....And if you are afraid of them around your baby...it won't get any better as the child gets older right???

Hope it works out for the best for everyone.
 
#17 ·
WTF!?!? Run- don't walk from this headcase. No one human or canine should have to live in such chaos. I suspect that Milky Way is right about his treatment of humans. If he hasn't started in on you it probobly won't be long. This guy shouldn't be trusted with a houseplant. Seriously, take your baby and run. Its your responsibilty as a mother!
 
#18 ·
HUGE RED FLAG.

My x once got mad at the dog and kicked his crate so hard it broke. I let him know that was one step away from kicking the dog, which was one step too close, and if he ever did anything like that again, the dog and I were both leaving. He got the message and never did it again, but in retrospect I should've skipped the ultimatum and left anyway. I ended up leaving him years later and altho he was never abusive to me, he was close... too close.

I agree with everyone else. This is animal abuse which is just wrong, period, and which is also a very big danger sign for you and your baby.
 
#20 ·
My first thought was "Gee what is he going to do when the kids pee on the floor?"

Not okay. The disregard it takes to treat another living thing in that manner, when his own life was not endangered, is a HUGE warning sign. That disassociation is scary. And one of the big signs of abuse potential.

Get the dogs to a shelter - NOW. THey don't deserve to be treated that way. They are probably scared as hell now, and vicious only because theyare in fear of your hubby. They deserve to have someone they can live with and not be frightened all the time.

And then take the stun gun and get rid of it.

And then tell your hubby counseling, NOW.

I can't even begin to tell you how worried this scenario makes me for you and your children, and how heartsick it make me for your dogs. Please, even tho it is freaky and frightening, remedy this situation now, as soon as possible.
 
#22 ·


Sorry sweetie...I know you probably want support on this one. But that's a very cruel thing to do. Dogs have accidents just like people and it would never be acceptable to stun a person.

I think you need to talk with your husband about the situation and see about some counseling. I'm guessing there are other things he may be doing that give you an uncomfortable feeling.
 
#26 ·
Agree that the dogs desearve a better life than they can have with your family.

Agree that using the stun gun on an animal for ANY reason is cruel and unusual. Sends up red flags about your dh.

My dad used to regularly kick and "beat" (usually with newspapers) our dogs. He was a bit of a tyrant, but never abusive to the family. I don't understand him reacting with such anger and violence about our dogs getting in the trash etc (it was rather out of character). He would scream at drivers too. Maybe those were his two outlets for his pent up rage. Not healthy or Ok in any case.
 
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