My dh went into rehab on Sunday. I honestly had no idea he had been abusing alcohol for 10 years. I did know of his problem with overindulgence in social situations, and when I asked him to stop drinking last December, he said he would. He has a sleep disorder that complicates the matter a bit, and I foolishly thought that evidence of drinking (since December) was actually the sleep disorder, not alcohol. I just feel so broad-sided by this. I really didn't see it coming and I feel so raw.
I am grateful that he sought help, and I'm starting to attend al-anon, and I have an appointment with a therapist scheduled for next week, but in the meantime I'm in so much pain. Everytime I make a little headway, dh gives me a little more information about the depth of his addiction (I think he'd actually sit down to tell me everything right now, we just haven't had any time together--he's not purposely trying to torture me by telling me something new and awful every few days). I never imagined my entire marriage would be built on lies. I love my dh so much, and I'm just so sad. What if we can't bounce back from this? I know I'm committed, but I'm so afraid that the guilt he feels will throw our marriage off-balance so badly (because no matter what he does to make amends, he'll see himself as the bad guy in this relationship) that he'll decide he can't stay.
Any words of wisdom or comfort will be greatly appreciated.