I would like to have children and my husband doesnt seem very keen on the idea. Its to the point to where when I bring it up ( all the time) we have fights about it. I had a lifethreatening illness years ago and my husband and I felt that life was short. We vowed that we were going to life life to the fullest etc. Its seems like there's one more hurdle to overcome with him. Is it money,he says no. Is it time? No, I would be a stay at home mom,but I KNOW my husband wouldnt really be there 100% for us. In fact he's a manager at work and he feels its wrong for fathers to take maternity leave in his line of work. I cannot have children and I asked him if its b/c he wont be able to have his own kids . Nope. Its just that he feels that having a child would hold him back in his career. I asked him if I am holding him back. He said no,but I feel it. I know he's unhappy in his position in life. He feels that he's not all who is supposed to be and I am just happy to be alive,happy to have a loving husband. It's not that he doesnt like children,he justs likes them with other people. Im tired of bringing it up b/c of the arguments we have. Its just making me feel that my feelings are not justified,like Im wrong for having these feelings of wanting to be a mother. Like Im a bad person, b/c I should focus on what he wants. When is a good time to have children? I dont want to wait until Im 50! In this case he suggested we get a 12 year old so then we can be "all caught up with our friends children now" I know he's joking,but there seems to be a serious undertone to this. I just dont know what to do. I just dont know how to better approach this. Any advice would be great.