Just wondering how everyone's toddler is doing with the new baby.
Mine is surprisingly unfazed. We have kept her on her normal routine so she goes to school in the morning and comes home in the afternoon just a wee bit earlier than normal. She is gentle with her little sister - thrilled to hold her, grossed out by spit up
and unusually nurturing with her stuffed animals lately. I am spending the majority of our time together holding R since she seems to want to be latched onto me from 3-7 each day, but DD1 seems ok with it. She is happy to sit next to me and pet the baby's head or play on her own.
That said, she's a challenging kid in general and every tantrum or minor upset has me feeling guilty for not spending enough quality time with her. These incidents are nothing out of the ordinary at all - DD1 is a very strong personality and going through a very independent phase right now. She is master negotiator and staller when it comes to things like diaper changes, eating meals, and bath/ bedtime.
Having my mother here has been ridiculously stressful. She was supposed to be helping me for the week, but on Wednesday after DD1 had a meltdown at the dinner table she accused me of playing favorites and loving the baby more because she's easy. I spent a full day crying over that remark (thanks for hitting me on a hormonal low mom
). I don't think she could have chosen a more toxic or hurtful thing to say. Now things are just crappy and tense since we're home alone all day together. She's been apologizing and backpedaling saying it all came out wrong - what on earth could she have been trying to say in that vein that wouldn't have come out wrong?
: It just makes me furious. My mom was a first child and she constantly tells stories about being neglected and passed over when her little sister arrived so she's totally bringing her baggage over here...
Anyway, sorry for the OT vent. Back on topic - how are your toddlers managing and how are you mamas managing?