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#1 of 12 Old 05-16-2006, 10:37 PM - Thread Starter
 
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There has to be something natural I can do to increase my libido a bit.... I am less than enthusiastic about any sort of nookie, though I will participate if J initiates. My once Leo-esque desire has fizzled right out, and I know its not easy on J.

Any suggestions for helping to get groove back?
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Hmm, I don't know any herbal or specific technique you can try. For me I just needed to stop thinking about my gut all the time. That was really hard. When you are thinking of a baby it is hard to want sex. After 27 weeks of pregnancy I finally feel like I can stop thinking about her for an hour (or ten minutes ) enough to get in the mood!
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I was like that my last pregnancy. I was also very dry down there, so I think I had a lack of horny hormones or something. The good news for my dh was that I started jumping him as many times a day as I could starting the 37th week. I wanted that baby out bad, and I knew that his sperm could help. Lucky for him, I didn't deliver until 42 weeks. I guess this doesn't help you any huh? Maybe try some erotic reading or viewing material before getting it on if you're not opposed to that sort of thing. It sure has helped me in the past. Make sure to have plenty of lube for the dryness. Maybe a toy could get you fired up before going at it? I have no idea about supplements or anything like that either. But I'm stopping here before I get scolded by a mod or something. Good luck

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Don't know why, but I'm only interested at 4am....so that's when it happens, maybe once every week or two.
I have no advice though. Sorry.

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I imagine it's probably out partying somewhere with mine...we should have placed a strict curfew on those bad boys and told them to be home at the start of the second trimester. Here I was thinking mine was responsible enough to return on it's own without threats. WRONG.
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*lol* Well, at least I am not alone!!!

Yooohooooooooo.... Libidooooooooo....
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Don't know why, but I'm only interested at 4am....so that's when it happens, maybe once every week or two.
I have no advice though. Sorry.

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Unless, dh initiates, I'm the same way. I wake up half way through the night, think doing something sounds like fun, then start thinking about having to wake up dh and how much more tired I'll be in the morning so I end up just going back to sleep. This is totally different than last pg.
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I imagine it's probably out partying somewhere with mine...we should have placed a strict curfew on those bad boys and told them to be home at the start of the second trimester. Here I was thinking mine was responsible enough to return on it's own without threats. WRONG.
Mine too! Poor, poor dh. Although I usually don't respond even if he initiates. He actually said he was going to stop asking. No such luck though, he's pretty persistent.

Wish I had advise though. I know of nothing that can really help. Though I've thought about a toy - because one of my problems during pregnancy is loosing the ability to o. So that makes it even less appealing to me.

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I imagine it's probably out partying somewhere with mine...we should have placed a strict curfew on those bad boys and told them to be home at the start of the second trimester. Here I was thinking mine was responsible enough to return on it's own without threats. WRONG.
OMG - that is so funny to think about.

Sadly my DH was under the impression that in Tmy second trimester that I'd be extra excited about sex which hasn't been the case.

I've just been trying to make more of an effort to say yes when he asks and being more open even when I don't feel like it. Usually I just beg for more 'lovies' and 'touchies' before going anywhere sexual and that usually does the trick for me.

I have been waking up with more thought to the idea, but usually I just roll over and go back to sleep.
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I have been waking up with more thought to the idea, but usually I just roll over and go back to sleep.
Me,too!!
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I can share mine. It is through the roof and poor DP is getting worn out.

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Well, if you weren't pregnant, I'd recommend several Korean ginsing. However, this is most likely not good in pregnancy.

The best suggestion is accept the way it is AND go slow. Either with your partner or your self, get pleasure without the expectation of orgasm. In other words, enjoy extended foreplay. It may take some time and patience but this usually works.
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