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#1 of 25 Old 06-26-2006, 11:29 AM - Thread Starter
 
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This morning, my roomate actually THREATENED me.
A little background first, my roomate was picked through the New School's matching service (we live in the dorms), I think they paired us up because we're both form the midwest (she's from Michigan). She is also 22, but instead of coming here to work, like me, she came here to party all night and shop all day. She says she's interviewing for jobs, but instead she brings home bags from armani exchange and watches the simpsons all day and parties all night, coming home drunk at 3 in the morning, making messes in the kitchen, and screaming into her cell phone and waking me up.
So yesterday, I came home from my mother-in-laws (I took the train into New Jersey and back) only to find a huge mess in the kitchen, obviously hers, which I cleaned up while she sat on her butt watching tv, and then I scrubbed the floors as well, 7 months pregnant, without a hint of an offer of help from her.
This morning I get up and am trying to make myself a sandwich and she has a huge can of rotting jalapenos in the fridge, so I ask her what it is and could she please clean it up and she starts screaming at me to shut up about her food, and then procedes to get in my face screaming obscenities and using all this ghetto language telling me she was going to beat me up or something.
I sat there with a completely blank look on my face and let her finish, and then, (I couldn't help it), I simply responded "Wow, you're such a badass, you're threatening a pregnant girl." To this she started telling me I needed to leave, I didn't deserve to be here, I should just go home because I am pregnant. Which I know is basically just proof that she jealous that I have a great job and am pulling it off despite of my situation, while she sits on her butt all day.
Right after the fight I had to go to work, and leave her there with all my stuff, which I am really nervous about. She could be throwing my things out the window right now, I have no idea. I don't know what to do because after working all day in the city I really hate coming home to a trashed home and a trashy person threatening me.
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Wow, that's just HORRIBLE. Is there someone you can talk to about changing your living situation? That is completely unacceptable. Sounds like she doesn't deserve her job at all. I'm so sorry you have to deal with such crap, especially at this wonderful time in your life!!

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there must be someone you can talk to about your roommate, maybe the service that matched you up?

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OMG 3_angels! I would definitely check into finding out how you could get her removed from the apt or get yourself relocated. Gosh, this is supposed to be a super awesome time for you, I'm sorry she's ruining it for you.

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That's just, yikes. I'm sorry, I would definitely see if there was any way to swap out of that situation. How much longer are you staying here?
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Holy crap, how aweful & scary! I wish you didn't have to go through this Please keep us posted
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Yes, please keep us posted! I can't stop thinking about you now, and being scared for you!!!!!!
I'm kind of going through the roommate thing right now, myself, but it's my hubby....he has totally checked out, leaves everything a wreck, and stays on the computer 24/7......he neglects my 12 month old, and won't help me out with anything......I'm so stressed, and I just can't take it.....and all the while, my BH's just get worse and worse, and I have more and more......yuck!
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Oh LillyGrace'sMommy, I'm so sorry that things are bad w/ you & your DH right now
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I talked to the RA, she agrees that this is unacceptable and promises to fix it by the end of the week, so we'll see. It was really stressful though and I ended up having these really painful cramps (Braxton Hicks maybe?) and had to sit and calm down at work. It kind of freaked me out, since I'm not seeing an OB right now because mine is in Ohio, so now I'm worried about the little guy and all because of an ignorant roomate.

LillyGrace'sMommy, I am SO SORRY you guys are still having problems. That is awful for him to treat you like that; have you guys tried going to a marriage specialist or anything? Maybe he doesn't realize how much he's hurting you. That's an awful thing to go through while pregnant and you should have to deal with it.
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It sucks that you're having to go through this while pg. (or any time for that matter, I've had to deal with my share of sucky roommates before)

It seams like you do have a place to get away from the city if you need to (MIL's house?), but just wanted to throw this out to you...
We live about 60 miles outside of NYC in a cute little town, if you need to get out of the city for a day (or a few), we'd be glad to have you. It might be a nice destresser, and you could get a feel for what boys are like (my two guys are such boys).

Hope things get better for you
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no one should have to put up with that crap. I do hope they figure out a better living arangement for you. This should be a very happy and adventerous time for you

LillyGrace'sMommy - I am sorry you are going through that crap too, especially with someone who supposedly cares for you

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Thank you everyone for your support!
The evil roomate moved out last night; or actually, was givin the boot by the RA's for causing a disturbance.
Whoo-hoo, the dorm is now negativity-free.:
Also, my fiance is coming to visit this weekend so I am feeling very hopeful at the moment and way less homesick- I have something to look forward to!
Tatgurl, I might take you up on that offer before the summer's over! Thanks!
Also, df is going to put my top bunk on the floor to make my umpteen trips to the bathroom at night a bit easier.
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Yippee, that's great 3_angels!!! Have a WONDERFUL time w/ your DF!!!
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That's so great!
I'm really glad you got this resolved, what a terrible situation

(I know I'm not in your DDC, but couldn't read and not respond )
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tyhats good news

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wonderful news

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Oh yay!! And how fortunate that she's gone before your fiance's visit!

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What a horrible situation. I'm so glad to hear they kicked her out for the way she treated you. Have a great time with your fiance'. Just a question, but since she is gone couldn't you move to the bottom bunk? If you get a new room-mate I'm sure she'd understand.
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Yeah! I am so happy for you!
Unfortunateley, things are not getting any better here....I think they get worse by the day.....I feel so alone, and I just want to be around somebody that cares about me!
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I'm hope dh wakes up nad turns his attitude around

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Yeah! I am so happy for you!
Unfortunateley, things are not getting any better here....I think they get worse by the day.....I feel so alone, and I just want to be around somebody that cares about me!

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Yeah! I am so happy for you!
Unfortunateley, things are not getting any better here....I think they get worse by the day.....I feel so alone, and I just want to be around somebody that cares about me!
LG's Mommy,
Tell that dh of yours that you're going to move to NYC with me if he doesn't straighten up! Then, give him a good swift kick in the behind! You are the mother of his children, you deserve to be treated like a queen!:
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Yeah! I am so happy for you!
Unfortunateley, things are not getting any better here....I think they get worse by the day.....I feel so alone, and I just want to be around somebody that cares about me!
Mama you should not be going through this

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How great they got it taken care of right away! I am glad you'll be living without that stress for the rest of yor time there. Phew!
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Yeah! I am so happy for you!
Unfortunateley, things are not getting any better here....I think they get worse by the day.....I feel so alone, and I just want to be around somebody that cares about me!
Oh my momma. I'm sorry he's being unsupportive. Do you have any friends or family to take care of you? Have you looked in finding your tribe to see if there are any MDC mommas around you?
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