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View Poll Results: Are you done having babies?
DONE! 13 36.11%
not sure 2 5.56%
I'd like 1 more 6 16.67%
I'd like 2 more 1 2.78%
I'd like 3 more 3 8.33%
I'd like 4 more 1 2.78%
I'd like 5 more 0 0%
I'd like 6+ more 1 2.78%
I'll take whatever I get 6 16.67%
other 3 8.33%
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#1 of 28 Old 02-08-2007, 06:27 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Are you done having more babies? If not, how many more would you like to have?

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#2 of 28 Old 02-08-2007, 06:30 PM
 
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Most often I *think* we're done........BUT, I do fantasize and know for certain that if we had 1 more that would definately be it. So, that makes me wonder if we should have just 1 more, then we'll feel more sure in our decision to not have another :
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Now that dh and I are officially outnumbered 3:2 by kids, I am not just done, I am SO done!
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Um, who's going to vote 6 or more?!?! :

Oh yes, we're done, btw. DP is getting the ol' sniperoo!
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I don't know. Some days dh says he's done, some days I think 2 feels right and even catch myself saying "when ds2 is in school, I'm going to go back..." Then I realize that I'm unconsciously planning our future with 2 children.

It's weird though because dh and I always had 3 in our minds and I was always thinking I'd be fine with 4.

We'll see. It's really hard for us to think logically with so little sleep.

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We're definitely not done but I may be done biologically. We'd love a bio son but I don't know if I want to do the pregnant thing again. If not, we'll definitely adopt. Hell, we're probably going to adopt at some point anyway. regardless of future bio children.
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i voted 1 more, but maybe more... we're going to reevaluate after 2
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we are done DH gets his snip next month.

I would have loved 5-6 kids but DH was set on 2, and due to age and compications this is it.

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Who knows? I would like one more soon and maybe no more, maybe 2 more in a few years.
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I voted two but we just plan on keeping on 'til we get a girl.

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We are done. Dh got his snip back in Dec. It just feels right for us to have 2.
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I am no where near done! but the next one(s) will be much later in my future
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I love having two, but I have really wanted three for a long while now. I am totally open to changing my mind and being content with my two, and it's still so early to see what it's like. We have 2 years to decide!

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I put other. I want 1 or 2 more.

For those who are done, do you feel done? I am worried I will never feel done.

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Maybe 1-2 more. Maybe also adopt. We're open.
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for those of you who want more soon, are you using birth control now (other than bf) or are you just seeing what happens?
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Using condoms, but I haven't got my cycle back yet,.

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also using condoms but no cycle yet. Plan on stopping condoms this summer and seeing what happens.
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I voted two but we just plan on keeping on 'til we get a girl.
That's us too. Except that if the 4th is a boy we may adopt a girl or two. We are considering putting in adoption paperwork while pregnant next time.

As "fun" as it was having my first two 15 months apart, I think ideally I'd like to wait 3 years before having a 4th. That said, we're not using much in the way of birth control at the moment. As soon as I get my cycle back I'll use the Babycomp and timed abstinence most likely...as long as a toddler doesn't start pushing random buttons again!!!

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I completely and totally feel done. It's just something I know.
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Will is just #1, so I put 4 more. We definitely want more, but it's really in the "we'll take what we get" category.

We don't use any birth control, don't plan to. I had to use Vitex to regulate my cycles to get pregnant, and if I'm not pregnant when he's 15-16 months old, I'll start using it again.
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Now that I just found out my birth daughter has special needs as well, I will never have biological kids again. The state has offered to tie my tubes for me more than once, I may just do that sometime in the next year or so. Should I ever get married again, I'd really like to adopt an older child or two. But this is talking many years from now.

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I voted that I'd take what I could get. That's because dh is done, but I am absolutely NOT DONE. I would love to have another biological child AND adopt. We do plan on fostering in the future though.
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I voted that I'd take what I could get. That's because dh is done, but I am absolutely NOT DONE. I would love to have another biological child AND adopt. We do plan on fostering in the future though.
I was thinking about you w/ this thread... wondering if you & your dh were still in different places on this. i'm sorry to hear that you are :
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Now that I just found out my birth daughter has special needs as well, I will never have biological kids again. The state has offered to tie my tubes for me more than once, I may just do that sometime in the next year or so. Should I ever get married again, I'd really like to adopt an older child or two. But this is talking many years from now.
Please research this surgery before you get it done. Your hormones will be affected. There are other methods of birth control that are far less invasive.

about your DD.
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Now that I just found out my birth daughter had special needs as well, I will never have biological kids again. The state has offered to tie my tubes for me more than once, I may just do that sometime in the next year or so. Should I ever get married again, I'd really like to adopt an older child or two. But this is talking many years from now.
Hi Melaya, I'm so sorry to read that your birth daughter has special needs You sound like such a responsible person- hats off to you for deciding not to have anymore bio kids
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Please research this surgery before you get it done. Your hormones will be affected. There are other methods of birth control that are far less invasive.

Thanks. I may never do it considering that I'm an emetaphobic, and we rarely volunteer ourselves for things like surgery. However, I have proven to myself time and time again that I am too fertile and just not responsible enough to depend on natural or other methods to control my fertility. I have now gotten pregnant once on bcp's, once while on the shot, and twice while using condoms. The surgery scares me less than a lifetime of bcp or most of the other options out there. This is way off topic though. But thanks for thinking of me and giving me the heads up.

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Done. I have my hands full with four
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