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Originally Posted by littleteapot
For me, having had a baby that was born and died of birth defects, I don't take comfort in the idea that my baby is 'perfect' - I take comfort in that whatever happens, happens. And there is a reason for it.
I cannot control or know everything, and so I spend my time loving and living, accepting whatever is there. An ultrasound or tests won't *change* what is there or what isn't. Nothing will. For me, there's no such thing as perfect.
Originally Posted by myhoneyswife
Littleteapot, you brought up exactly how I am now, but a few years ago I would have gotten the screenings. I think it has *a lot* to do with different life experinces. I know myself now, and I know that even if I had gotten screenings, I would have worried that I had been in the 0.5 percent that gets a false negative. That's just how I am. Actually, in this pregnancy, I've been worried about everything also, first I worried because I wasn't gaining or sick, then I was sick, so obviously my hcg was doing it's thing and I worried it was a molar pregnancy. Now I've felt the baby move, and I STILL have it in the back of my mind that it's a molar pregnancy. I'm just like that. I would have had a spiral of interventions and diagnostic tests that would have just made me more nervous. That's just how I am. Thankfully I figured it out myself before I go pregnant, and I have figured that the best thing for *me* is to UP. Honestly, I'm super relaxed (except for that stupid irrational molar pregnancy dealie) with this, and I think that it's because I've been attempting to actively change my mindset. Around 12 weeks I decided to find my fundus, yup, right on. I just recently bothered to get a blood pressure cuff out of curiousity, and just ordered a fetoscope, also out of curiosity. I'm not doing pee sticks because I just don't feel the need, if I feel a need, I'll do em.
But anyway, that is my ramblings just to say that I totally know where other people are coming from. I know I would have done the same thing a few years ago. Actually, the reason why I'm not doing them is because my DH demands that I tell him exactly why I need to do XYZ before I do it (lol, not very PC, tsk tsk tsk) but in doing that he has caused me to question my little medical saftey net that I relied on before. So yeah, that's it. Totally understand what everyone is doing
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