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#1 of 17 Old 08-30-2006, 08:33 AM - Thread Starter
 
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: Ok, so maybe I'm the stupid one here. I need to vent. It's 4 am here and I can't sleep because I've got all of this going through my head. So, Last week at my COB appt they scheduled me to be inducted on the 15th. We have good reason to schedule this and frankly I'm glad they did. We need to be as prepared as possible this time and so do the medical staff. We need to make sure we have all the necessary surgeons around and room in the NICU when baby is born. So things were looking good (were, being key here). At my appt yesterday (I think it'd be called yesterday, right?) things changed a lot. On hursday they noticed an arythmia (sp?) in the baby's heart. Normally not a big deal. But in this case (and with all the other factors considered too) it's apparently a rather huge deal. They did the monitering yesterday (that was our very first appt of the day) and it was still there. So they went and pulled one of their top u/s techs to check things out. The baby's heart looked like dd's ballet class at recital. It was way out of step (kind of like it was hiccupping). The tech went to consult one of the COB drs. and she wanted to do another u/s so she could see things as well to make a better judgement of the situation. They said that if there was any fluid around baby's heart at all we would be having this baby today (I'm thinking yay, and nay at the same time. Neither me nor dh felt good and we certainly weren't prepared to stay). Thank God there was no fluid. Instead of staying she sent us down to our COB appt and started making phone calls, instructing us to come back as soon as we were done with our appt. We go down to our appt and the Dr there doesn't know what's going on yet (they kept our chart upstairs) and is rather surprised by it, doesn't think anything will change delivery-wise. (This whole time I've got horrible motion sickness. I was sick in the car the entire 1 1/2 hour drive there and walking around even made me want to hurl. I was not doing good at all.) I remembered all the things I wanted to bring up except one and thought I was doing pretty well. I'm measuring good and baby has a good heart rate. Anyway, my appt goes smoothly (other than feeling like crap) and we head back upstairs to check with the first Dr on our way out. She has a much different story to tell us. Apparently she has consulted with everyone involved in our "case" (except the NICU, she haden't gotten to them yet) and everyone (and we're talking the heads of all the major depts here...Peds, OB, Surgery...) all think we need to induct next week on the 5th. (Okay, so far we're doing good. I can handle that. We'll just have to have my blessingway this weekend. Dh was kind of rooting for that day anyway.) Then she drops the big bombshell...we will have to do an amnio to check the baby's lung development and make sure they're mature. : I have worked very hard to avoid an amnio and anyone who has had a high risk pregnancy knows that's incredibly difficult. Why is this the first I've heard of this?!?!?! : You'd think they'd tell me this when they first brought things up, not as an afterthought. They all know I have very limited experience with hospital births and would much prefer to be having a baby at home (although we've known from the beginning that was not an option this time). They all know how I feel about having an amnio. I've told handfuls of Drs no already and now I feel like I have no choice. I want a healthy baby (well, otherwise healthy) and it seems like in order for that to be possible at all this has to happen the way they're proposing. I'm okay with the induction and everything, but why the amnio. I know I'm probably being silly, but I just don't like the idea. The problem is that they can't induce me at 37 weeks without one. : What am I supposed to do?
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not from your ddc but i wanted to send you a
i too wanted to avoid all interventions(after having two nautral birth without so much as a heplock or fetal monitoring,i was pretty set in my ways!!!KWIM?)
well at 31 weeks i got really sick and tgey thought tht maybe the amniotic fluid was infected.they wanted to do an amnio to check i didn't want it,then his hr went down in the 60s,i was getting sicker. i gave in,the doc that did it was very skilled and very nice to me(that always helps)and it wasn't a big deal in the end,consider i am also terrified of needles,that is a big thing for me.yes i hurt a little but i just kept in mind my little Ollie.
this birth turned out a far cry from what i was expecting(wont go into the details and bore you) but i made the best of it and i look back on it with as much fondness as the other two,i just figure that Oliver has given me a run for my money from the moment i POAS.
i personaly would do the amnio to check lungs as ollies was a 7 they need to be around a 40 to not need assistance in the nicu and the less they get poked and prodded the better ,
i hope that everytthing works out you and your babe are in my thoughts,

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Thanks mama. I'm also absoultely terrified of needles. That's probably a big part of why I don't like the idea of an amnio. I have to admit, I do pray that the baby's lungs are able to handle being born next week. This little one is going to have a difficult enough time coming into this world. The babe is going to need surgery within the first 48 hours of life and being able to breath on its own would help make thing esier on it. Who knows, maybe we'll even be able to find out the gender befoer birth. That's the only other definite that they can promise us by doing the amnio. It would save the baby a little bit of blood work after birth to not have to test then.
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sending you and your little one and your whole family lots of love and peace...

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Sending you hugs!! I don't know how to answer your question though but we'll be thinking of you this weekend!! And on the 5th since that is our anniversary.

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Big hugs Mama!!! I am confused as to why they would want to do an amnio when they want to induce only 10 days before your due date. If it was 4 or 5 weeks before your edd then maybe I could understand the concern, but it is only 10 days early. Is it maybe because of whatever complications baby already has they think is affecting the lung maturity?

Either way I am very sorry you are having to deal with this. You have been & will continue to be in my thoughts. Enjoy your blessing way too!!

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<Hugs> No answers here either. I'd be frusturated also. I'll be thinking of you!

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I don't have any OB experience with this, but I have had a lot of Gyno. problems in the past. It seems sometimes you will find a Dr. who is on a crusade-for a good cause, but they are really quick to jump into Medical intervention (I have HPV and went to a specialist who seemed to be on a one woman crusade to erradicate cervical cancer. A noble persuit, but I personally didn't want her to cut a chunk of my cervix off, so I told her I was researching my options. She kicked me out of her practice.) Anyway, the point to me sharing is that your Dr. seems like she may be on that same path. Is there any way you could get a 2nd opinion?
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Big hugs Mama!!! I am confused as to why they would want to do an amnio when they want to induce only 10 days before your due date. If it was 4 or 5 weeks before your edd then maybe I could understand the concern, but it is only 10 days early.
They were planning to induce me early already. The 15th was just the first induction date they had set. I'm not due until the end of the month. I'll be 37 weeks when we have the baby.
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Is there any way you could get a 2nd opinion?
I appreciate your ideas mamas. This unfortunately is the opinion of over a dozen doctors at 3 different hospitals. I don't think I'm going to find another opinion. I wish I could, I just don't see it happening.
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Sending you hugs too! I hear your frustration... and I am sorry that things seem to be spinning out of control. For the medical community an amnio is not a big deal, but for a mama, it is. Keep deep breathing and sending you peace...
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They were planning to induce me early already. The 15th was just the first induction date they had set. I'm not due until the end of the month. I'll be 37 weeks when we have the baby.
That make more sense I guess, but at 37 weeks an amnio to check lung development seems odd to me. Then again I don't know your whole situation & I am not a Dr. Still sending you lots of peace, you will be in my thoughts.

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It sounds like the right thing to do, mama. They need to balance letting this baby cook long enough and not too long. Normally it's not a problem, obviously, to let them cook longer rather than less, but in your little one's case you really need to get her out as soon as it's healthy to do so.

I would go with the amnio, and I'm not usually one to favor interventions and tests.

I'm grateful for your little one's sake that we have this technology to help us and help her.

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Thanks everyone. I'm starting to feel a little better. I still need to get together with my doula and try to work through all these feelings before tuesday. I thought we'd already worked through all the hard stuff. I've made the very difficult decision to have an epidural this time so that I'm prepared if we need an emergency ceserian. I have also come to accept that a ceserian birth is still a birth and can be just as beautiful (another huge milestone). I do hope that we don't have to go that route. I haven't asked for much this pregnancy, but I am praying things will go smoothly and we will have an easy birth with as little intervention as possible. I also am praying that baby's lungs will be mature in time. Those are about the only things I've asked God for this pregnancy. I'm not asking for a perfect child like I have in the past. I've known from conception that would not be the case this time. I'm not even asking that this precious little baby be able to survive all the surgeries it will face (although I really hope it does). I am just grateful for this oppertunity to get to know this awesome little person who has already made such a huge difference in my life. I have to admit, I've gotten to the point where I feel like I deserve to have something go right. I know I'm being selfish, but what mother wouldn't feel this way. These last few months have been so trying and there are just so many unknowns this time. Of course there are a lot of knowns that I wouldn't have chosen, but I wouldn't change this for anything. I know this is happening for a reason. I do think it would be nice to understand those reasons now rather than later though...but hey, what are you gonna do. I'm already thanking God every day that this pregnancy was high risk from the beginning because it was a huge blessing in disguise. If we weren't high risk, we wouldn't have been sent to Madigan at 18 weeks for an u/s. If we hadn't been sent there they techs at our local hospital would not have caught any of the complications. They're that hard to detect. I even wonder if any other tech (we had their best) at Madigan would have even noticed. If it hadn't been detected the birth defects wouldn't have been found until birth. Also, if we weren't already high risk, they wouldn't have been monitering the baby twice a week for the last month and a half. Without the monitering we would not know about the arythmia that has developed. When we did the echocardiogram at 22 weeks it looked fantastic! In fact, the heart looked perfect until thursday. Gotta love change...
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well, on friday they still saw the arythmia on the monitering. Nothing has changed, so I guess it will be tuesday then...
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