Hi... hope this isn't out of line.. but I thought it would be good to have a place for those of us who were hoping to wait until our babies/our bodies initiated labor but find ourselves preparing for inductions/ interventions after all.
I still feel that even if we & our birth attendants have decided it's time to jump-start the process, we can still be autonomous & powerful in birth, however it happens! And I don't want any of us to go into birth feeling defeatist or like we have 'failed'. (Not that I am getting that from ANYBODY here.. but I think some of us might be getting it from within ourselves.)
So... for those of us who have tried everything we can/feel comfortable trying short of some more traditional medical intervention, and need to make peace with it and move on... how about having a place to focus on the positive and powerful as we go forward?
For instance... rather than beating myself up for having had a surgery that resulted in scar tissue on the cervix, as if I could magically have chssen to NOT have a medical condition that I felt needed surgical treatment, I need to realize that any other procedure I'd had to deal with the same problem would have had its own tradeoffs... if I hadn't had the surgery, I would have been gambling with cancer, which I wasn't comfortable with, and if I'd had a cone biopsy instead of laser, I would have had an increased risk of preterm labor to deal with.. in other words, there is no magic wand and no perfect option sometimes, and we have to appreciate what our bodies are able to do and accept and be grateful for options if they need some help.
doula mom to a fantastic 3-year-old dirt-lover , Yeshuel, m/c at 10wks 10/6/08 , and Alan born 10/7/09