My mother and I have a very tenuous relationship. She doesn't approve of a lot of the choices I've made and am making. Since getting pregnant, a lot of stuff I thought I had dealt with has resurfaced. Also, since this is her seventh grandchild (first from us), she seems really forced-happy about it. Neither she nor my sisters even mentioned a shower for me until I mentioned that we had a shower one weekend at my DH's family. Then, all of a sudden, "Oh, yes, we need to get that on the calendar for you." So the shower with my family was really thrown together...and it showed.
When I was telling her about Bradley classes and natural childbirth she asked, "You aren't going to try to give birth at home, are you?" I told her no, because dh was really uncomfortable with that. And it's true, if DH weren't so freaked out at the idea of it, I'd be planning a homebirth. As it is I plan on waiting til I'm in transition before leaving for the hospital, and I won't mind a bit if we don't make it there in time!
My biggest issue to deal with right now is that for each of the other six grandkids, she's stayed a week with my sisters after the birth. Well, she doesn't like the dogs and has a polite but not chummy relationship with DH, so we don't want her to stay for a week. We really don't need her commenting on our decisions in that important first week. Unfortunately, she's already told everybody that that's what she is doing, even though what she said to me was she'd be available if we needed her. Hopefully, everything at the birth will go swimmingly and we won't need her to be around.
It really peeves me that she's just going through the motions with this one...of course, that's what she's always done with me. (I'm convinced I'm on this planet because my folks wanted a boy. They had to try once more to get one.) She finds the time and money to go to Toledo and Niagra and all these other places for conventions with their "business," which they got into because of the favorite older sister. In fact, they spend nearly every weekend with this one sister who lives about eight hours away, but rarely to they travel the 1.5 hour to the other sister and her family or the 6 hours to us. In fact, the only time they've been to our house was when they were in town for "business" anyway. They're coming to a convention here in a couple of weeks. Are they going to try to spend some time with us? Ha! They'll call us so we can go meet them for lunch or dinner, and then on their way out of town they are going to stop by our house that we have spent all summer renovating. Geesh. Good to be so loved.