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#1 of 42 Old 10-30-2006, 11:50 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Jaya will not be at her computer for a while and asked me to update you wonderful Mamas who have been here with her on her journey.

Her beautiful baby boy, Trace Oak, was born on Wednesday, October 25th during a tragic event. He is with us only in spirit

Jaya narrowly escaped death and it is the most saddening thing that her son did not. In her truly infinite wisdom she listened to her body and knew early on in labor that she needed to be at the hospital. After some time there, a major artery to the uterus burst and the birth suddenly became life threatening for both of them. Please know that her uterus did not rupture on her previous-cesarean scar and that Jaya would not want this event to interfere with any woman's trust-in-birth. It was her trust and instinct that saved her.

She will provide more details when she is ready, but for now, please keep her and her husband, Scott, daughter, Ariah, and Trace in your thoughts and prayers—they need lots of love and light sent their way.

~Janet~
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I'm not in DDC, but couldn't read without posting.

for Jaya and her family
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I am so, so very sorry.
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In my thoughts and prayers!!!!!!
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Oh please send that poor mama some love and healing vibes from us here.
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for baby Trace.
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Love and light for Jaya's family~
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oh no.

Trace

love and peace to jaya.

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Oh Jaya, I am so sorry for your loss!!

I have heard it said that babies and children who pass into the next world are the source of the inspiration that we feel here. He will be with you all ways!!

Blessings to you sweet Trace!!
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Jaya, when you read this, please know how much our hearts are with you. I am so sorry that Trace Oak is gone.

I hope that both your body and your heart heal quickly.

I will not forget your little one. I am glad that you got to spend an extra few weeks with him after all.

Tracy, doula and Army wife and homeschooling mama to A and E
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Love and peace to you, Jaya. I hope your heart heals. I'm very sorry about Trace Oak.
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May sweet baby Trace rest in peace and may you recover quickly, Jaya.
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My thoughts & prayers are with them.

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I am glad that you got to spend an extra few weeks with him after all.
The above is what I wanted to say too.

Jaya, I feel more pain for you than I know how to express. : So sad. Our family will be sending lots of love to you and your family.

Trace

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I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Trace's spirit will always be with all of you. Much love and peace to you and your family in this tragic time.

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Oh Jaya, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. You, your husband, daughter and little angel will be in my thoughts and prayers
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My heart is breaking, I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you love and prayers for healing. Trace
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I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
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I am soo sorry for your loss! My heart breaks for you.
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
*HUGS*
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I have no words to express how truly sorry I am for the loss of Trace!
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Jaya -
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers - please let us know if there is anything we can do for you and your family.
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Sending wrm thoughts and healing vibes to you. Stay strong mama. We are all here for you.

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I am so sorry. Love and light to Jaya and the family.
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I am so very sorry. : for your family


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Rest in peace, little one.

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Oh no! I'm so sorry mama. My thoughts are with you.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers your way
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I am so sorry for your loss mama. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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Mama to 4 darlings. A ('03), O and K ('06), A ('09), and wife to M since 2002.
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oh dear god you guys, it is worse than hell...

everything they say is true- it just feels like a dream, a nightmare... you keep waiting to wake up.

i need to post the story- honestly, not sure where to post- here or UC or in birth loss... I feel like I fit no where anymore.

it is the worst possible scenario, other than the scenario where i die instead of choosing life. at least my little girl and her daddy have me still.. it was as close as you could possibly come to dying...

and not only is my dear baby gone...

my uterus went with him.

i'm 33. I have no baby and no womb.

i just spent the last 2 hours holding dd who is just so sad. she is crying and wanting to never leave me. of course she can't express her feelings at this point... just shows me her anger and her tears. it is ripping my heart out.

more later...

Jaya- unschooling mama to Ariah Rayheartbeat.gif1/02   Rukundo Pacifiquebuddamomimg1.png11/08  

missing Trace Oak candle.gif 10/25/06

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oh jaya. i know i am a stranger, because i was only in your ddc for a few weeks early on, but i read about your loss and i just can't stop thinking about you and your precious trace oak.

life just is not fair. i am so so sorry and i wish more than anything that this had not happened to you and your family.

please post your story somewhere, here or uc or birth loss.

you, your dd, your partner, and of course your little trace oak are in my thoughts and prayers constantly.


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