Our new daughter is a little angel so far (knock on wood). She sleeps well, doesn't cry very often (just grunts loudly when she's hungry), and seems very sweet-natured. DS was a sweet, but colicky, needy baby - so this is a pleasant surprise for us. However, DS has been having a hard time. He is nice to his sister (though I wouldn't leave them alone in a room together), but since she was born (12 days ago) he has had some behavioral regression.
Specifically, naptime and bedtime are very hard for him. He always fussed for a couple of minutes after we would say goodnight, but he always stayed in his room with lights out and went to sleep on his own. Since he sees the new baby in bed with us, he asks to be in bed with us now. We tell him that we can all nap together - and we try. However, when he is in our bed he gets restless and doesn't fall asleep. If he comes in during the night, we do let him stay and sleep. However, we don't want to go backwards and do this at bedtime. We bought cute lights for his bed to encourage him to feel happier there. We try to be cheerful and stick to bedtime routines - but nothing works. He always ends up crying himself to sleep, turning on the light, coming out into the hallway, and even falling asleep on the floor with his blanket.
He is also more aggressive towards us (started hitting and slapping both of us - as well as having more temper tantrums). What about you other mothers of toddlers? Any BTDT moms that can lend advice and/or encouragement? How long does this last? Thanks for listening and sharing any tips you might have.
Mandi - Doula/Childbirth Educator, Loving my DH, DS, DD, DD, missing my three (last m/c 4/2010)