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#91 of 117 Old 11-17-2006, 01:15 AM
 
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Thank you for finding a way to survive for your daughter and your husband.
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Dear Jaya,

WHY, WHY, WHY??!! Why did this have to happen to you?? I remember your beautifully honest voice from the ICAN list and I didn't even know you were pregnant again and I just cannot get my head around this sad, sad news.

I understand that this was the loss of a life's dream in every.cell.of.my.body.

Words are failing me...I apologize...I am so humbled.

All the love to you and Scott and Ariah...

Your sister from ICAN, Jessa
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Thank you for sharing your beautifully written and profound story. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Thank you for sharing your story.
My heart breaks for you and your family. You are soo strong and brave to have fought thru the battle.
I hope your heart heals soon and my thoughts/prayers r with u.
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I can't even imagine what it must be like to write all this down. I'm so so so sorry for what happened. I hope in the passage of time you will find some measure of peace and solace. You're all in my thoughts.

For Trace Oak

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this agonizing pain of yours is too much and all too familiar.
it hurts so bad i can barely stand it.
i am sorry mama.

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Oh, momma. My heart breaks for you. May you find peace & comfort in this tragic time in your lives. s

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I am so sorry Jaya

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I am so sorry to hear what happened. My son was stillborn due to a rupture 2 years ago.

There is a support group via email list for women who have experienced uterine ruptures. It's one of the few resources out there that I have found.

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group...esupportgroup/

Just a note of warning:
The support and lack of criticism is definitely strong at the personal level on that list. I've never seen anyone on the list be attacked for their own personal choices/situations that led to their rupture.

The problem comes when people start talking about friends/family/people online who are going to VBAC, HBAC, or UHBAC. Or if an article/study/report is posted about those citing safety/non safety. That's when some people lose their sensitivity and start saying hurtful things, forgetting that there are people on the list who still value VBACs and HBACs. I can understand their zeal from their point of view--their babies died during VBACs (probably about 95% of the women on the list) and they don't want that to happen to any woman or baby again. They have lost all trust in doctors/nurses/midwives to be informed about rupture risk and signs and to follow the proper safety guidelines for a VBAC--and with good reason because their situations were often terribly mismanaged/ignored/misdiagnosed.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry!

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I am so so sorry.
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I have no words as I'm sure there are none to convey my feelings for you...
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I'm so sorry mama. RIP Trace Oak.
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So sorry, just wish I could do some little something to take your pain of loss away. Going out the front door of the hospital was GREAT!!! The older I get the more I question why the innocent..Take care, and I will keep you in my thoughts. PEACE!!!!!!!!!!
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I couldn't read and not respond. I am so sorry you went through what you did, and lost your little boy.
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I'm so very very sorry.

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Oh, Jaya! I'm so sorry! Words can not express the hurt I feel for you and your family. I will keep you in my heart!
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I couldn't read that and not respond. I am so sorry for your loss. You told Trace's story so beautifully. I wish I could say something that would make you feel better, but I know I can't. And I shouldn't, because I wouldn't want to take away the experience of your son, despite the pain it caused you. Take away pain, and we take away an important part of what makes us human. I pray that the Goddess with bless you with peace.

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I don't know what to say. My heart aches for you.



Wishing you and your family peace.

Expat mama to my 7-year-old Halloween boy and my cheeky preschooler, who came before the midwife in January 2010... Gestating a new bean, debuting spring 2014!
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There are no words. Prayers of love, peace and strength, sent your way. I am so very sorry.
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I wish I could make it better for you....


With thoughts and prayers from my family to yours,
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I'm so sorry. no one should ever have to experience the loss of their baby.

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Mama- I am so sorry for your loss of baby Trace. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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Trace Oak
I will always remember your story Jaya!
You are such a strong wonderful woman and thank God your family still has you!
I'm so sorry for everything The abuse the loss...everyting
I hope peace finds you and comforts you always!
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