I was looking forward to having a home birth this time around. I called some midwifes and they came out for a consultation. The one thing that is keeping me from calling them to schedule and appointment is the fact that I was kind of made to feel that since I had epidurals in the past that I didn't know what I was getting myself into by choosing a home birth this time. I even told them that I am pretty sure with my last DD they turned the epidural off when it came time for delivery (because I felt that delivery, but not the other two.)
I mean they didn't really come right out and say it, but that was the impression I was getting. When I asked about a water birth I was told that it was just a coping mechanism for the pain. Then they suggested classes they have that help you "cope" with the pain. It has really made me sit back and think, "is this really what I want?"
My reasons for wanting a home birth:
I hate hospitals, I can't stand they way they tell me how to take care of my children, (hello I have had a few before!)
I don't want to be pressured/forced into any vaccines
They cost an arm and a leg for all that bossing around they do.
With my other children, because my water broke, I was not allowed to do anything but lay in bed the whole time.
After my last DD was born I was IMMEDIATELY whisked to another room (they needed the birthing room for someone else, no time was given to recoup AT ALL) I was forced to share that room with someone else and was unable to get ANY SLEEP at all.
Showers were down the hall and you had to share with the entire ward. (ewww.)
Anyway the most stressful part of my last birth was the hospital stay afterwords. Granted I did leave 12 hours after the birth, (the wouldn't allow me to leave any sooner.
: ) but I just don't think I could take that again.
There is also the fact that we don't have any insurance and a home birth would cost a lot less. But now I am doubting my ability to be able to handle it without pain medication. (Even though I now know it's not good for the baby and don't want any.)
So, has anyone had an epidural previously and gone on to home birth, or even just have a natural birth the next time? I guess I just need some reassurance that I can do this since everyone else is making me feel like I can't.
Thanks for your advice,