Yes, paps are normal, though my fp asked if I wanted to wait until after the babe was born, since the results are not reliable anyway (and I declined the pap). Not measuring and not listening for the heartbeat is not unusual either. I would be freaking out over the abortion/adoption thing. Is she your normal family doc? Maybe she was jumping to conclusions about you, if you are new to her. I wouldn't go back if I could help it. As for only coming in if you have a problem -- maybe she is overbooked and just can't take more appointments? You have had two children already, so maybe she figures you know it all
Still seems strange, with all the emphasis put on quality prenatal care.
I would take up HerthElde on her offer for info for midwives. I have a friend who had one baby in Saskatchewan, in Saskatoon I believe, and she delivered in the hospital with midwives. If it is at all like Ontario, the midwifery care will be far better than a family doc. I have my first appointment next week, I'm pg with my fourth, and they still book 45 mins for your initial appointment. Most of it is chatting about past pregnancies, labour, and births, and expectations for this preg/birth, diet, overall health, feelings, etc. And again, my experiences are only in Ontario, but I've been a client at two different practices so far, and they were great about letting me bring the kids, they had toys in the room, etc. I'm now at a third and I haven't been for an appointment yet, but they said kids are no problem to bring. That's a big deal when you're not a first time mom, and when you're a sahm and don't have regular child care. They were also very good about including the kids in things, explaining what was happening when they did measure my belly, etc.
Good luck, and welcome!