are full of stupid comments and advice about things they know NOTHING about. What you are doign is so selfless and incredible. You should be really proud of yourself. Those comments are hurtful and you have every right to tell them they are. I too got lots of hurful comments when we were going through our years of dealing with fertility challenges....the old "why don't you just adopt" was my fav (not). Anyway, I finally learned that people have NO clue what to say when they are not in the situation and their comments were more hurtful than anything else. You will learn to ignore them or tell them you don't want to hear it. Good luck with that, for what its worth, you are doing an amazing thing.