I've been using cloth pads for incontinence on & off for most of my pregnancy. Most of the pads I have are rhythm & blues pads, which I really like.http://www.hindsightdiapers.com/
I've been using her pads for about 2 1/2 years now and they work well for me. I personally like the teen/slender pads that she makes as they seem to fit me better than her regular size pads. I'm pretty average sized, but that is what I like that she sells.
I've also tried Lunapads and I don't like those as much - they have a liner that is held in place by a piece of rickrack and the rickrack irritates my tender bits.
I'm going to have to buy more pads soon for pp bleeding, as I only have a handful of heavy duty pads - my normal cycles are not that heavy.
As far as washing them, if they were used for incontinence I usually just stuff them in a rubbermaid type bin in the bathroom until I wash them. If they were used for bleeding, then I soak them in a bowl with cold water until I wash them. Depending on my mood I sometimes rinse the bloody pads out first. I just wash my pads with whatever load I am doing at the time. My dd is almost 5, so we don't have diapers anymore to wash, at least for a couple of months.
Btw, I've discovered that the Rhythm & Blues pads should be washed with cold water. I was washing them on hot at first and they sort of shrank unevenly. It's not a big deal, but I am anal about stuff and it bugs me.
Btw, I discovered after dd was born that I could not tolerate disposable pads anymore. They just irritated my skin way too much. So I am much happier with my comfy soft cloth pads.
I haven't bought disposable pads in 2 1/2 years, so I am also happy about how much money I've saved too. :-D