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#1 of 16 Old 10-12-2006, 03:23 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I had a growth for the twins today.

they are still growing but are in a decline acording to the growth chart.

My u/s showed them weighing in at 4 pounds 14oz and 5 pounds 2 ounces.

they are in the 28% I am 35 weeks and 4 days. I just had this dream this whole time that I would bake some big pudgy babies for the dads. And with them being so small i am so ugh i don't know ... so frusterated that they won't be 7 pounds babies.

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Oh Mama! Don't beat yourself up about it. You still have a few more weeks to cook them, right?

And how accurate are those tests anyway?
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I have heard they are accurate to a point but alot of times the babies are smaller than they say... I have never heard of anyone having a bigger baby than the growth said... but I don't know too much about it.

Hopefully we still have time but everyday I am getting signs it won't be long

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Just remember that genetics probably has alot to do with it too, and you had nothing to do with that part!!!! 5lbs at 35.5 weeks isn't *bad*. They're doing fine, and they don't have to be huge in order to be healthy!
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I agree with boscopup! Twins are normally small, and even if you delivered today, the'd prolly both be just fine! No worries! The'll have plenty of time to fatten up after they're born and have more room!
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I made my IPs promise me that if they are born under 5 pounds than they have to let me breast feed for at least the first 3 weeks (the time they will be here in MN) and they have aggreed! yay for small victories

thanks mamas you have made me feel tuns better!

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I made my IPs promise me that if they are born under 5 pounds than they have to let me breast feed for at least the first 3 weeks (the time they will be here in MN) and they have aggreed! yay for small victories

thanks mamas you have made me feel tuns better!

wow, that's really nice of you! I'm sure they are really grateful for your offer...heck, for all you've been through.
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wow, that's really nice of you! I'm sure they are really grateful for your offer...heck, for all you've been through.
Oh they are NOT greatful they just aggreed to shut me up lol

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I'm not in your ddc, but I am also carrying twins, and I'm a twin myself. So I was hoping to share some info that might be of comfort.

My brother and I were born at 36 weeks and weighed 4 lbs 14 oz and 3 lbs 13 oz, respectively. I had shared that information with Dr. Barbara Luke in some emails. She said that those were actually good weights for babies born at 36 weeks.

Since your twins are already above those weights, I think you're doing great. And I think you'll still have time for them to gain some more.

I, too, have dreams of carrying my two almost to term, and having 7 lb babies. Well more of a strong feeling than a dream, but as long as they are born healthy, I won't be disappointed! I do like to keep that positive goal in mind, though. Sending that vibe out to the universe, so to speak.

Think positive, mama! You sound like you're doing great! And here's to big, healthy babies!

HTH...

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Thanks so much mama!!! I do feel better. I know size isn't everything!

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Just wanted to add my hugs in there!
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I made my IPs promise me that if they are born under 5 pounds than they have to let me breast feed for at least the first 3 weeks (the time they will be here in MN) and they have aggreed! yay for small victories

thanks mamas you have made me feel tuns better!
I think that is SO GREAT! I think you should bf/pump for them if possible, anyway, so much better for babies.... BUT I think the emotional connection might be hard?!!

Anyway, cheering for you! meg

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I do not plan to put them to breast. I plan to pump bm and let there parents feed them

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My 36 week singleton weighed 5 pounds 4 ounces at birth. So if she had "cooked" 4 more weeks, with a weight gain (estimated) of 1/2 pound a week, she would have been a 7 pound baby. Maybe the twins will gain during these last few weeks.
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I may or may not be in your ddc (baby is due very end of Nov./very early Dec.). Eat lots of protein mama! Makes for healthy hefty babies.
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It may sound kookie, but is there any way for you to spend some time letting them hear their dads talk to them more? I feel like positive lovey dovey parental vibes go a long way.
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