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it sounds like your DD has some ya-yas to burn before bedtime. my DD often plays the same game, and i handle it differently depending on the situation. i can definitely understand the frustration though! i will often use logical conquences too ("well, if we don't get ready for bed now, we won't have enough time for xyz."). in general, i pick my battles. if we need to get going out of the house, i will ignore her game, say something like "we need to leave soon, and i need for you to help and get ready," and then i'll do something else i need to do before we leave. when she's not getting my attention, she will usually stop playing/hiding and come get ready to go. !
dissertating mom to three
This is exactly what I do - I go make some snacks or something, and try to get the process started early so we won't be late (if there's a time constraint), otherwise I just let it go and when she's ready to help me help her, then I do.
I sometimes wonder if the goal is to get my attention, since maybe she feels like she's not getting as much of me as she was (say, before I got pregnant). If that is what is up, then I agree with her, she isn't get as much mama as she used to have. BUT, 1) I can't fix the past few months (of dealing with nearly-HG), 2) she's going to have to share me with another kid in a few months, adn 3) I've been trying to get down with her more, cuddle more (I now sleep in with her so we can cuddle together when she wakes up), we have her back in our bed, rather than a bed next to ours, etc. I could use some other suggestions on that front though.
there was a time when my son would run into streets and parking lots and away from the playground. And he was fast. I was never playful about that sort of running away because in my opinion there is nothing funny or fun about life-threatening situations.
I used immediate "natural consequences" to deal with it- we packed up and left immediately, he had to be strapped into the stroller or hold my hand firmly the entire way home. I used to get mad about it though I tried not to, but honestly it was scary. I explained that it was dangerous and that if he couldn't listen to my voice then we couldn't play outside right then.
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