I have a three year old boy who has a history of severe sensory issues, aka sensory processing/sensory integration disorder.
We have seen an occupational therapist, and have taken her recommendations (brushing, lots of hard play, swimming, swinging, no gluten/dairy, etc). The brushing, etc, may have helped, however, the thing that seemed to help the most was seeing our local gentle touch chiropracter. We have to keep up with regular appointments in order to maintain my son's state of well-being, but it gets expensive. I am looking into taking my son in for a urine analysis to see if he has any chemical imbalances, and if so, may start him on special supplements according to what the outcome might be.
Lately, he has been hitting, pushing, and pulling hair when playing with other children. That is how we were alerted that something wasn't right in the first place approximately a year ago, and proceeded to get him tested. Since the addition of the therapies previously mentioned, he has gone in and out of phases of doing really well, and then not so well at all. Right now, it feels as if we are back at square one. The "regression" has coincided with a stomach bug that my son contracted a little over a week ago. He is still recovering, and still very sensitive, hence the reoccurence of hitting, biting, etc. I was well aware of the fact that when his immune system is struggling, that he regresses as well.
Along with this, my son is EXTREMELY needy of attention, won't let us out of his sight, "bossy" and demanding. Lots of screaming and crying....all the time. He often gets overwhelmed, and sucks his fingers when in this state.
It is heartbreaking to see him go through this, as well as energy draining and overwhelming for us. We are also at a loss because we have spent three years applying gentle discipline principles that we have picked up from various resources such as Connection Parenting classes, a local conscious parenting class offered by a therapist here in the community, etc. I feel like pulling my hair out and screaming "HELP"!
I also should mention that we moved into our new home, just down the road from our rental, three months ago, and had a new baby 7 weeks ago.
He is stressed, we are stressed, don't have each and every moment for him anymore, and he still very much needs and demands it.
We would like to send him to preschool in August when he is three and a half, but are afraid that he may wreak havoc on the other children, etc. Also, it is very stressful, because i cannot take him out to play among other children right now. I spend alot of energy staying on top of him so that he won't hurt others, and when he does, i apologize to the other child for my son's behaviour. Then we sit down and practice identification of feelings, etc, with him, after we talk about the other child's feelings. Any suggestions?