I have a lot of other examples, too. I'm putting this in a separate post because I don't want these stories to bury my question up there, lol.
When DD finds her yelling voice, sometimes I will praise her. "Oh, I hear you my baby! What a beautiful voice you have!" If she's right next to my ears and she yells I say quietly, "You don't need to yell, I'm right here. I can hear you."
I guess it just kind of makes sense to me. She generally doesn't yell in public, so I feel like I must be doing something right.
So K let out a very hearty scream while we were eating and I said, "My, K, I love your singing voice! It's so pretty!" So her mom replied "NO it is NOT pretty. It is ugly. Yelling is ugly, don't yell."
I felt so bad for this poor little girl. This story absolutely heinous, but I have to talk about it because it's been eating away at me.
My DD, Evelynn, is very thin and very tall. 3rd percentile for weight and 65th for height. She doesn't look like a normal baby sometimes, she looks more like a little old lady!! So cute, anyway... K is an adorable and gorgeous baby with lots of yummy chubs and icy blue eyes, I just wanted to eat her up! So I was complementing K on how lovely her chubbies were and I had to pinch her fat and so on...
Her mom was offended and she took it out on K. She said, "Why can't you be thin like Evelynn."
For the rest of the evening she kept telling me that Evelynn has "Long thin model legs," and things like that. I just wanted to punch her in the face!!!!!
I feel so bad for little K. She's been set up for failure because her mother is holding her to standards that no one could possibly achieve. It broke my heart!
Such a wonderful little girl, but I never saw her look happy. No amount of playing with her and praising and clapping would get her to crack a smile. I just don't think that's normal for a 10 month old.