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Single mom to ds(8), dd(6) and ds(5)
You only gave one example but from that example it really sounds like he is having trouble adjusting to the new baby.
If it were me, and I had a free arm, I probably would have playfully tickled his foot and said something like, "Trying to kick me, are you, foot???" and then made plans to do something as soon as the baby was done nursing, "Hey, you want to build a lego tower with me when the baby's done? Can you go get the legos?" I would try to avoid negative associations with the baby, and give him more leeway during this time (as long as he isn't really hurting anyone). Playfully redirect if you can, rather than directly confront the behavior. It seems that confrontation right now is very escalating.
Try to set aside some one-on-one time with him, too. Its really hard to adjust to a new baby.
Bellingham Crunchie, do you have any book recommendations for this kind of thing? Is it playful parenting? Whenever I go to head to head with DD we both lose and it is AWFUL. She is very strongwilled. But I don't always have the wits and patience to be playful. More of this kind of thing would probably work wonders in my house.