Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Gloucestershire, UK
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I turned out fantastic! I am optimistic, determined, a 'strong' person, etc. I did fantastic in school, I went to university, I love helping out where I can, etc.
I was not only spanked - I was beat and sexually molested as a small child.
Did my childhood make me who I am today? - You bet! I have no doubt my horrible childhood has made me a better person because I got the help I needed and don't want that cycle repeating itself - ever. But it does NOT make what happend to me good or right or ideal in any way!
I have had years of counceling and have made peace with all of that as well. There are some things conditioned into me that are hard to break too (such as to hit when I am angry). But at the end of the day, I want my son to do the right thing for the right reason. How could they even bother making such an article and/or doing such research? I would say thats highly flawed. And why bother? Whos gonna read that and think 'Id really like my child to be more optimistic and attend university in the future - so ill start giving them a good smack every now and then when they step of line!'. Its a bit of a sick conclusion really to say 'spank your child = create a great person!'...I feel its just like my own life experiences. No one would dare say 'abuse your child = create a great person!'. Ugh!
Mummy me : > Thats Ann! and my beautiful SONS Duncanand Hamish 19/09/05 & 22/04/10!