I'm looking for a general guiding philosophy on how control should be balanced between parent and child.
For some things, it is obvious. For example, the parent should be in control of the toddler's safety. For other things, like the toddler wants the whole family to go to a pizza restaurant for lunch but the parents want to stay home and clean the house, it is much less obvious who should have the control.
I know the balance of control needs to change as the child grows older and also according to different circumstances. So what I really need is a general guiding philosophy. Can anyone explain their philosophy and/or recommend some really good books on this subject?