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Honestly I think you need to focus on dealing with emotions instead of punishing him. By making the threats you are (not going to taekwondo/ Not reading etc) you are teaching him to treat people disrespectfully and not helping him find ways to deal with emotions that for a 4y/o are very overwhelming.
By calling them tantrums and fake crying you are saying his feelings are fake and manipulating. Which in turn will make you more frustrated/resentful about his feelings
What happend between the time he expressed a desire for a walk and the start of his meltdown? I'm a bit confused about the timing of all the events because you say you had lunch then tried to go for a walk and after that he went to bed?
Also you say you feel he is working you but what about your DD she is working you by crying to get what she wants right? and I'm sure you ds was allowed to do the same at that age, so what changed?
I have 2 highneeds boys so I now the frustration of these types of situations all to well
|I think we often have this idea of how things should be get stuck on it and are unable to look at each situation with fresh eyes. then there is outside pressure of how things should be and how they should be dealt with.|