For a variety of reasons, I am really disappointed with our Montessori school's wraparound program.
One of the main points of Montessori is respect for the child.
I feel that time outs are in opposition of that.
I realize in a group care setting that sometimes kids get out of control, and that time out may seem easy.
But I know for a fact that many other group care settings (i.e. day care centers that I like or think I would like here) do NOT use time outs.
Additionally, I am not opposed to time out if used judiciously, and only for the purpose of stopping violent or other wild behavior (that might hurt other children), and only for long enough for the child to collect themselves. I also would not call that time out, but more of a quiet time, or cooling off time, a break, etc. But our school is doing it for every reason imaginable. I was told they even use time out if a child doesn't want to help cleanup.
Additionally, the recently acquired a pack and play so that one of the young toddlers could use it for napping as she had never slept outside of a crib. Monday when I picked up my children, the pack 'n play was in the far corner of the room with a child standing in it "crying" (not really crying, but whining I guess to get out or something). The teacher said "oh yeah, I just put him in there". My children (2 and 5, so I don't know how accurate this is) tell me the pack 'n play is being used for time out. I was flabbergasted. This is not acceptable to me.
I spoke with another mom, and she also has a big issue with this too.
Assuming I can resolve the other issues I am having with the wraparound, I would like to see if I could get the time out policy changed.
Does anyone have any links or whatnot to stuff I can print out that describes what is wrong with time outs? Or any other suggestions for me on how to tackle this issue?