Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Pacific NW longing for the Midwest
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How old is he? If he's under 3, then unfortunately, your only real solution is to simply not give him access to the baby. So, if you need to go to the bathroom, one of them comes with you. If you need to go to the kitchen, one of them comes with. If you need to put a load of laundry in, one comes with.
If he's simply not allowed to touch her, he'll get the message.
The other thing that we did at our house when one of our kids hit/hurt another was to take them instantly to their room for a cool down period. No talking (other than maybe 'hitting is not ok' said firmly). They knew it was wrong, but their impulse control didn't always keep pace with their knowledge. Heck, dd hit her brother in frustration yesterday and she's 5. She got a spell in her room. I know that not everyone here agrees with that, but hitting was a huge trigger for me and I needed to keep everyone safe.
Finally, make sure that you have at least 30 minutes a day where you can focus on your son and let him direct the play. It may have to be while your baby is sleeping or while someone else can watch the baby.
Lynn, academic, wife, WOHM to T (4/01) and M (5/04)