Join Date: Apr 2004
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I am feeling helpless with my 8 (in two weeks) year old...
She is grounded to her room right now because she will not stop being a very rude little person. She has called me poo poo head more times already today than I can count.
She talks back, threatens to throw things at me, throws things at me, says she hates me, mocks me, hits and is completely disrespectful some days
and other days she is a very sweet considerate child, which she was yesterday
and now today so far it has been her and I here and she earned time out for behavior that is crossing the line of kindness and respect and she went to her room and played for an hour to avoid it and now she will not sit there and do it, she keeps getting up and saying rude things and trying to hit me...
so now, she is in her room and I am considering keeping her easter basket until she behaves....
I really hope I can get some open advice here and not criticism, for a long time I did not do time outs, I did not want to yet, different children need different things and I'm feeling like this is b.s right now that i am just not going to put up with.
I try the best I can to be the best parent I can and she doesn't have a perfect life but she has it very good in many ways and I am not okay with being disrespected and treated like crap by her...it feels like she takes control of the situation by refusing to cooperate with me
like, after I told her to stay in her room because i see no other alternative, she is in that mode of being rude No Matter What. No matter what attention I give her ect... she will find something to be P.O'd about....
I'm on my way back downstairs and she is standing there on the landing holding something and pretending to throw it at me (she has thrown things in the past) and she knows I am scared when she does this.....she picked up my fear and is exploiting it.
I feel like taking everything from her except her bed and light and let her earn every single thing back.
She does not have a relationship w/her bio dad. I have a partner who she loves but they have difficulties sometimes, she tries to cause fights between us....I can see her doing that. I am working through a lot of healing right now personally and I am doing the best I can.
What the heck do I do?
I am seriously at a loss and I do not feel like I should tolerate this disrespect from her.
thanks for reading
and I do hope I can get support and not flamed for my parenting choices.