dd knocks over her baby brother, gives him a lump on the forehead. so i bring her into her room with me while i pack some clothes. i sit her in her bed and tell her it doesn't fly to hurt her brother so she needs to stay there until she calms down. i guess this is kind of a time out but i was there next to her. she gets defiant, tries to bolt out of the bed so i sit her back down. she flails in the other direction and smacks her forehead on the edge of the toddler bed. four stitches.
the flailing and defiance are recurring themes here. when it involves her brother being injured, i'm far less likely to want to sympathize or honor her needs. though in this situation i did keep my cool, i guess i'd like some feedback on how i could have handled better? has anybody come out of the toddler years with a psychotic switch-flipper and lived to tell the tale?
mama to n 12.17.07 and j 08.13.09
I often think it is a miracle kids don't get hurt more often on the sheer force of their own body movement. Sometimes I look at DH and ask him if survival of the fittest really is true, because our kids' actions seem to test that theory regularly.
mama to n 12.17.07 and j 08.13.09
And it isn't just themselves, if you ask "please give me that fragile object that will shatter sharp bits all over the place if you drop it" dd is just as likely to go to throw it.
I find it a little easier to do time outs in a specific room and then basically ignore sitting position/location. If it's a total ridiculous thing (DD has been put in time out on the couch but started sitting such that she was going to fall off the couch onto her head ) then the time out location changes and/or the time out officially doesn't start "until you sit correctly." If I physically tried to make them sit correctly though, I bet they would do the same thing yours did though.
Cathy mom to 13 y/o DD, 10 y/o DD, 7 y/o DS
We just went through a rough month, DH and I both went back to work, DH was laid off for 6 months and I had been a SAHM. That brought out DD's chaos again, she spazzed one day and hit her shin really hard, all her own doing-it sucks that they can hurt themselves from their freakouts.
I used to have to put DD in her room, it was the safest place for her to flail, she flopped on her bed-at least it was soft.
Very blessed mama to one bouncin' boy (12/07) one who didn't get to stay (6/09), one potty learning, mess making diva(4/10), and one cheerful milk monster. (12/11) Happy partner to the love of my life.
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