I'm reading UP and we have been GDing since we had our 1st...learning as we go of course. But, there is one habit I can't get my DH to break. When we are having difficulty getting DD (3 years) to stop whatever behavior she needs to stop, DH finally says "If you don't stop this right now, you are going to be in big trouble." Except that it's a totally empty threat. We occasionally use timeouts (but we really don't want to), but other than that we have never used any punishment. We both yell too much, but that is something that we both have to work on - years of abuse we have to overcome. Anyway, my DH understand why he shouldn't say that...but in the moment, I think it just comes out because that's what he was told. Can anyone help me with a good phrase he can replace that with...or something concrete to do instead.