I am at wits end. I feel like I am invisible to my children and they completely tune me out. They have begun completely ignoring me. It's been a gradual process, but over the last few weeks it really seems to have reached its peak. My ds is 6 1/2 and my dd is 2 1/2. I have read extensively about age appropriate behavior for the 2yo, so I know what to expect/not expect from her.
However, I do think I should expect that my 6yo not completely ignore me and my requests and/or reminders. He just goes on doing things I have asked him to stop, or does not do anything I request of him.
For example, a house rule is no jumping on the living room furniture. WE have wooden floors and my ds hurt his head when he was 3 jumping on the couch, so, there is a valid reason for the rule, not just me being uptight. We bought them an expensive gymnastics floor mat for the sole purpose of jumping and gymnastics in the house. Any time they start jumping on the furniture, which is several times a day, even though we made the rule 3 years ago, we just remind them "get out the jumping mat." Yesterday, I say that to ds, and what does he do? He just gets on the rocking chair and starts jumping on it instead. I stop him and ask him why he jumped on the rocker instead of getting out the mat, when he knows why we don't jump on the furniture, he says "I wanted to."
Things like this happen many, many times a day. They just completely ignore me! I don't feel the need to control my children, this is not about control. I do feel that they should respect me just as I do them. I don't ignore them when they speak to me. I don't blatantly disregard their requests and/or feelings. the rules and limits that we set are solely for safety reasons, to avoid property damage and to respect one another's needs. Nothing arbitrary or over the top. Just basic stuff.
In the last couple of weeks I have found my self yelling just to get them to stop and listen to me, Today, I completely lost it and screamed because they ignored me while I was trying to keep them from mauling each other during play wrestling. Then when I raised my voice and was obviously distressed, they both started laughing at me!! I was blown away!
We don't punish, impose consequences or do time-outs. We rarely yell. We work very hard to use positive guidance. So mamas, what do I do? What am I doing wrong? How do you handle being completely ignored by your children?