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My Son was Diagnosed with ODD and Interminent Explosive Disorder.
He was on Risperdal for a little bit and i decided to take him off it cause it was not working anyways. I mean giving it a try isn't bad but why keep upping the medicine if its not working at the lower dosage?
So now we're just looking to get him into ONE ON ONE Counceling. We had in-home support but i found that not working either cause with 2 other siblings he was not getting the 1-on-1 that he needed. So i stopped that as well.
At times i get frustrated cause he doesn't get along with his brother and sister and i am also expecting baby number 4. When this baby comes how is he going to react? I am really afraid that he will do something to harm the baby. He's already making threats that he will kill the baby by kicking me or punching me in the stomach. I have told the dr this numerous times and they just blow it off. I am just at a dead end cause no one will listen to me.
Your first line about the conflicting inherited traits--that is exactly my dd Our story is long, and we are on the other side of it, but at age 7 we were in family counseling to deal with her rage (also had an infant at the time--aggravating the situation), and that it how the counselor summed it up: she got my sensitivities and dh's confrontation. Result: in your face rage. Gah!
Basically, we had to teach her 3 things:
1. how to appropriately express anger
2. boundaries, and what to do when feeling out of control
3. how to manage her anxiety and sensory issues so that she didn't feel out of control
#3 maybe should be first, because without that, there is no #1 or #2. There is just *REACT*.
Some quick tips: We LOVED the book "When Sophie is Angry, Really, Really Angry" by Molly Bang. I bet your little girl can relate to Sophie! What Sophie does isn't perfect, but is a great conversation starter.
#2 above (boundaries) required consequences for inappropriate behaviors. Every time. We used time-outs. As long as we were willing to negotiate and discuss in the midst of screaming or hitting, it made it "ok" to scream and hit. And, let's face it, in the moment it feels good to lash out and hurt people. She had to learn where the immovable line was drawn. Ultimately, what she wants is my audience; she wants to be heard. Once she learned that she will NEVER be heard if she is out of control, she was motivated to control herself. It still took steps #1 and #3 to complete the picture.