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|The dreadful days are another story. On those days you’re not sure you can face another twenty-four hours with him. It’s hard to feel good as a parent when you can’t even get his socks on, when every word you’ve said to him has been a reprimand, when the innocent act of serving tuna casserole instead of the expected tacos incites a riot, when you realize you’ve left more public places in a huff with your child in five years than most parents do in a lifetime.
You feel weary, drained, and much too old for this even if you were only in your twenties when your child was born. It’s hard to love a kid who keeps you up at night and embarrasses you in shopping centers.
On the bad days being the parent of a spirited child is confusing, frustrating, taxing, challenging, and guilt inducing. You may wonder if you are the only parent with a kid like this, scared of what is to come in the teen years if you don’t figure out what to do now, in the early years.
Somebody please help me.
The last three paragraphs here pretty much sum it up.....
Im at a loss as to what to do. If I had a sister cross country Id put DD on a plane one way. Im going bonkers. Nothing Ive done works and Im silently raging. I cant take it. Im laying in bed crying at my computer because I feel like the worst parent in the world. Do I really not like my own kid? I grew up with a mother who didnt like me, it sucked. Im scarred from it. Sometimes I wonder if she'd be better off with someone better equipped to handle her. I was not raised GD or AP by any means,, and my gut reaction when shes being "herself" is I want to take my fists to her She pushes all my buttons all day long and when I dont have a speck of patience left DP comes home tired and wanting to relax and DD just pushes all his buttons. I feel like 98% of her waking life has been a battle. I give up. I dont know what to do. I dont want to fight anymore. I just want a peaceful home life. DP and I fight more about DD and discipline more than everything else combined. I cant take the yelling, screaming, tantruming, whining, crying, crazy stressfull environment. Im so overwhelmed! Do you know how awesome it is around here when she's with a grandparent for a day? Its incredible. and it hardly ever happens.
Part of me wants to just start smacking because even if it didnt send the "right message" at least maybe ONCE It might get her to "listen". Im so desperate. nothing works!!! This gd stuff DOES NOT work!!!!!!!!! Im trying to remember shes only 6, shes doing the best she can....but its just not sinking in..just not cutting it....
I cant afford to buy this book, we went over our budget last month by an entire paycheck and it will take us months to recover...but that's a thread for a whole different forum......somebody help.??????????
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