He is unaware of the adoption process - we're still waiting on the papers back from the (literal) sperm donor. We know it's what he wants, because he's been asking to have his Daddy's last name for a couple years now, but we didn't want to involve him in the stress of getting the paperwork taken care of - especially because his bio-father was literally a SD, as in handed a specimen cup, so there is no relationship being lost in the process. Once that gets back is when he'll know.
When it comes to gaming during the summer, our rules are simply "You have to do some active things also if you want to play video games." This stems from the fact that given the choice, he would sit and watch movies/game all day, every day. He could easily sit in front of the tv from breakfast until bedtime and still ask for another movie, I guarantee you. So the compromise is simply that he needs to balance his time with active play - which we incorporate by doing things as a family most of the time, like the beach, pool, family bike rides, etc, because he doesnt yet enjoy just going out in the backyard and playing. During the school year it's usually weekends only - there's just not really enough time in the day during the week anyway!
I forgot to menton that yesterday he also informed DH that he doesn't like his birthday presents. This kid got the entire action figure set for The Last Airbender, plus mask and swords to dress as one of the characters. He got an impressive Iron Man that shoots missiles, etc. He got two Leapster video games. He got Sculpey, paints, a wooden birdhouse to build, and a wooden pirate ship to paint. Oh, and a Lego City space police ship. Of course this was from us and a bunch of other family members. This is all stuff that he loves.
I'm just at a loss - he's had such an amazing, enriching, awesome summer. You look in from the outside and he's got so, so much. (And we're a one, modest income family, so we pinch pennies to make stuff happen.) He goes to private Montessori school. He plays soccer. Both DH and I are very very actively involved with him. DH works 24 hrs on, 48 hrs off - and purposely didn't work hours at his extra job this summer so we could go on vacation and do things as a family. It's quality time, not just quantity.
So I'm just at a loss as to the hows and whys of his behavior deterioration. We always have talks about interacting with other people, respect, compassion, etc.. reading books as well, or discussing things we see in movies. Not lectures as much as just discussions stemming naturally from things that happen.