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It will come with time. But right now he doesn't have the impulse control.
Several suggestions: Get one of those child backpacks with a leash on the end so he's connected to you without having to hold your hand. For kids who like to run and don't like to hold hands, they're a nice thing.
Take him for a long run/play at the park before you go shopping.
Divide and conquer. Have one of you stay at home with him, and have the other (whoever's more stir crazy) go shopping.
When you have to shop with him, master the 10 minute shopping trip. Make your list ahead of time. Get him lots of exercise first. When you get there, know exactly what you want and where to get it. Use a shopping cart and put him in the child seat. Do not let his feet touch the ground of the store. Bring a snack for him to work on while you shop. Then shop as fast as you can so the store will only hear 8 minutes of screaming, and remind yourself that you're not the first mom of a toddler who's needed to shop.
Mom to 5 wonderful kids (9, 6, 4, 2 and 0), 1 adopted through foster care.
I came to type the same thing. ...
...These days, we practice. The kids are allowed to walk _next to_ me ((big privilege)) instead of riding, for example, but if they sprint even once, they have to come and hold my hand for the rest of the trip in the store/whatever. They don't have total impulse control yet, but we're getting there.
Leila, mama to Eleanor (10/08) and Emmett (4/10)
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DD absolutely MUST hyold my hand at all times when we are near a street or in a parking lot. No exceptions. If she does not or won't walk properly i will carry her. She knows this now so if she starts acting up etc I just say "shall I pick you up?" and she walks nicely.
I have heard a lot of people say it is uncomfortable for them to walk holding hands but it doesn't seem so for us.
At first I would just give her the choice: be carried or hold hands. IMO she (DD) is too young to have impulse control -- what if there was a really neat animal on the other side of the street etc?