Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: On a mountain in Harpers Ferry, WV
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I intend to revisit Kurcinka's book again. I'm currently enjoying Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, which is a wealth of perspective for the toddler stage.
Thanks so much for your input, ssh. The perceptiveness is definitely one of his key characteristics. He makes connections (often to other people, friends, etc.) that take me several minutes to unravel. For instance, we had a playdate w/a pal he doesn't see very often. Unfortunately, their car went on the fritz & they couldn't make it. I told him we would have to plan for another day, saying her car was broken. He was very disappointed. REALLY, surprisingly disappointed as I didn't think he remembered her much less be so upset about not seeing her. Over a month later, I told him we were going to see her. And he says: "Car working." Once I realized what he meant, I was momentarily stunned.
You describe perfectly the accommodations we make for DS's personality. He thrives outdoors. I've invested in serious rain gear for all three of us (DS2 at 1 year old) so we could play outside even in unfavorable weather. I don't bother much buying toys for him, in fact, because I know that unless it moves him or he can move IT (cars/trucks/ride-ons), owning it is pointless.He devours books, but he does so while ricocheting off walls as we read to him, or while already picking out the next book to read.
I blame AP'ing in jest, mostly. I hear my mother's voice sometimes, with the "you-better-nip-that-in-the-bud" philosophy she loves to hit me over the head with during his finest hours. All the freedom (the kind that would scare most conventional families) that we've granted him, the tailoring of his environment to meet his needs (goodbye wrought iron coffee table, hello futon mattress on the floor in every room), etc., the adapting our daily rhythms to his moods (Grocery store trip at 11a? Only a mad woman would consider such folly.) sometimes causes me a bit of wonderment on our most challenging days: Have we done too much for him? Are we going overboard? Etc.
I just like to stop by here every now & again to collect experiences like yours. They never fail to console me when I need it most.
Thanks again for taking the time, ssh.