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Give your DH information on normal childhood development and then tell him that arbitrarily doing something mean to your DD because she doesn't yet have a clear idea about the difference between pretend and actual reality is bad for her and your relationship with her.
It's probably good your DD doesn't have a really wild imagination because all the stories about my almost 5 year DD tells would really upset your DH. She has imaginary friends, siblings and pets. Also sometimes my DD is a dragon. So when she tells us something happened, we have to figure out which reality it occurred in, hers or the rest of the worlds. Lying is about deceiving not about saying something you wish was true or sharing your fantasy world. Instead of even talking about honesty you should probably just have more age appropriate expectations.
Cathy mom to 13 y/o DD, 10 y/o DD, 7 y/o DS
We've always faced any lying head on -- we don't ever try to "catch" DC in a lie and I always pretty bluntly say if I think she's not telling the truth. Sometimes I'm wrong. Sometimes I think DC thinks I have magical powers. Sometimes DC is confused.
If my instincts told me that DC was outright lying I would have just said, "That is untrue. I know your teacher would not say that. You are either confused or not telling the truth." If I really wanted to drive the point home and be a bit "punish-y" I would follow by saying, "I don't appreciate you trying to tick me into buying a toy...it makes me pretty angry, actually." Hearing that from mama would be more than enough punishment, IMO.