At what point does expecting a child to NOT run off down the street with a friend to her house, while mama stands at the top of the hill (next to the car we were about to get into) calling "stop!" become a realistic expectation?
Happily when 4 yo dd took off running full-tilt with her 4 yo friend after preschool yesterday it was in a safe-ish place, but I had rather thought we had outgrown this running away and not stopping thing.
I am struggling to mantain realistic expectations with dd right now - she can do so so many things (and some of them suddenly - I had no idea you could do that yourself, sweetie!) and can converse and understand so much that it is a little hard for me to see where her actual limitations are, just at the moment. It makes it tricky for me to decide whether she is willfully not doin something she can do (like not run off with her friend - I thought she was capable of that!) or whether I am expecting her to do something that really, she can`t quite pull off on her own yet.
Does that make any sense?
Anyone else want to chime in with what their idea of realistic expectations for a four year old are? Just in general terms, or as relates to impulse control and running off?
So, totally unhelpful, just know that in my opinion it's not unusual to lack that control at 4.
Impulse control around other children? Age 6 for dd.
I would love to know the definitive answer to this questions. There's more to it than age. My almost-4yo has better impulse control than my almost-7yo. It crosses my mind about daily that maybe it's just because my youngest hasn't thought of evil impulses yet that need to be controlled or that my 7yo is going to end up in therapy...but I am hoping it's just different personalities. I just look for continuous improvement. More impulse control than yesterday is all I ask :)