I'm going to apologize, because I realized that I was reacting more to an event in my past, that was dredged up by this thread, than the thread itself.
When my oldest was 5, I went to our local homeschool support group gym day. I was trying to nurse my 6 mo daughter, and my son was playing less than gently with the 2 other boys his age. Neither of their parents said anything, but the mom of one of the girls playing nearby did. I got up, interrupted the baby's eating, went over and talked to my DS, it seemed to be under control, and I went and sat back down, to nurse my DD. It happened a second time, except this time, my DS had grabbed a toy from the group leader's daughter, who was sharing her toys with everyone but my DS. I interrupted the baby again, and went and talked to my DS. Again, everything seemed to be okay. I asked a parent/friend who was by the boys, if she could watch my DS. I intended on feeding the baby, and leaving. The third time it was deemed that my DS was playing to roughly, he was DRAGGED BY THE ARM over to me. The mother who dragged my DS, and the mother who led the group, proceeded to give me a verbal lashing. I was upset, and embarrassed, and hurt for my son, and myself. In retrospect, I should not have gone to the support group gym day, because I guess my DS wasn't ready for a situation like that, without me right next to him, watching his every moment, which I really couldn't do with the baby. All I remember at the time, was homeschooling was new to me, I had a young baby (who nursed constantly), I was over 1000 miles from home and family, we'd recently moved from a neighborhood we'd lived in for 4 years, to a neighborhood, 30 minutes and few towns away, where I knew no one, and my son and I were lonely.
My son is a good kid, though sometimes thoughtless and impulsive, and I struggle daily with trying to help him learn proper behavior, without resorting to the tactics my family of origin used. And I can't seem to win either way. I'm either too harsh, or to lax, depending on who you ask. My son and I are both trying but we get a lot more negative reinforcement than positive for our efforts.
So that was where I was speaking from.
But I have a feeling it won't matter to some of the posters here.
He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe is as good as dead; his eyes are closed. ~Albert Einstein