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#61 of 63 Old 05-16-2011, 06:09 PM
 
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I didn't read all the responses but want to respond to the OP. I think it is 100% your right to keep your kids away from another child who is repeatedly physically hurting them- even if he is family. If I had a cousin beating up on my baby or kid of any age, I would not let my ds be in that situation if the other kids parents are not stepping in.  I think you should have a talk with the mom of agressive kid when no kids are around- and say

"-listen, I really want us to be able to hang out, and some niceties-however- having my kids be hurt by your kid is unacceptable to me. I see that you are overwhelmed with him.  If you would like some advice, since I have parented 4 of them, I would be happy to shre my ideas with you.  IF you are not willing to do anything about the situation, then I would like to either have your permission to discipline your kid, or request that we not hang out while he is acting like this."

 

so in other words, try to broach the subject with the mom from the approachof- my kids are getting hurt and I need to figure out how to make that not happen.  Ask her if she wants advice before giving it, and then maybe try to brainstorm together to find a workable situation.  IF she is not wlling to do anything differently, then I think you should just stop hanging out with them. you can't just let another kid harm yours just because he is young and family! good luck

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I babysit my inlaws children and the two year old is constantly attacking my child pinching her back and face. One day they were playing in their room and I heard my two year old screaming I walked in and found the two year old I watch on top of my daughter with her finger in her mouth pulling at her check. She had a little blood on her lip. I pick her up off my child and sat her on the couch in time out . Her parents are like well you know she 's two but how much more should i take . I'm supposed to protect my child too. I'm afraid it will cause family issues this is my husbands family. Is this behavior continues and don't want to watch them anymore.

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I babysit my inlaws children and the two year old is constantly attacking my child pinching her back and face. One day they were playing in their room and I heard my two year old screaming I walked in and found the two year old I watch on top of my daughter with her finger in her mouth pulling at her check. She had a little blood on her lip. I pick her up off my child and sat her on the couch in time out . Her parents are like well you know she 's two but how much more should i take . I'm supposed to protect my child too. I'm afraid it will cause family issues this is my husbands family. Is this behavior continues and don't want to watch them anymore.

How old is your daughter? It sounds like she's even younger? Kids that age most likely need to be playing near you so you can keep them safe. Toddlers can't really play off by themselves. You shouldn't watch her if you're feeling resentful, but this sounds mainly like a supervision issue to me.

If you don't want to watch her anymore, you can probably find a gentle way to tell them so as not to create family issues. Maybe that the two kids have a hard time together and you need to concentrate on your own child at the moment? It sounds like you're in an awkward spot as far as family politics go.
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