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My four year old behaved extremely badly at daycare today. It was dealt with well at the time, with an explanation of why it was bad and time out in the 'thinking spot'.

Do you think its appropriate to punish further when he gets home (ie restrict TV), or leave the issue alone as 'adequately dealt with' at the time'?

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I think it's fine to let him know that you know what happened and that you don't approve of his behavior.  Other than that I think I would let it go.  I found that punishment at daycare and then coming home to more punishment made for worse behavior. 

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When our son was having hitting issues at daycare (trying to fit in/engage with the older boys when they joined his 3s class on the playground), our primary response was to let him know we were checking up on him and that we absolutely did not approve of hitting other people. Every day at drop off, we reviewed our expectations - no hitting. And every day when we picked him up, we made sure he saw us asking his teacher how the day went - was there any hitting? That later transitioned to (merely) asking DS ourselves if there was no hitting? And if we asked his teacher, would she say the same thing?

 

We *did* somewhat restrict TV, because he had started watching old Spiderman clips from Electric Company. While they seemed benign on the surface (no fighting visualized; action was simulated in comic book form), we decided they correlated too closely in time to the daycare hitting to continue them. So, we told him, "no more spiderman" and we let him know it was because he was hitting. He was also hitting during roughhousing with DH and couldn't seem to learn the "rules" about roughhousing, so we stopped the roughhousing game, again, letting him know that it was connected to his inability to control his body.


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I think it's fine to let him know that you know what happened and that you don't approve of his behavior.  Other than that I think I would let it go.  I found that punishment at daycare and then coming home to more punishment made for worse behavior. 


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