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#151 of 166 Old 07-10-2012, 02:07 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I finally grocery shopped.  It was as bad as I thought it was going to be.  They moved everything in my favorite grocery store and that was so frustrating to me.  None of the aisle matched the signs. 

 

Oh, I symphatise. A year or two ago, they moved everything in both the grocery store I like, and the grocery store that I don't like. Amazingly, the one I don't like was actually even harder to navigate afterwards. Half the aisles have different items on the sign, depending on which end you're at. They put things in weird places that make no sense. It's basically where I go for diapers, toilet paper, toothpaste, shampoo and soaps/detergents. It's cheap for those things. But, it's always...fraught.

 

The other store took a while to get the hang of, but it's fine now that I have it figured out.


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Well, after calming down I would explain what could happen by playing with knives and what are knives for - but no longer than 5 minutes. I would say that since this equipment is very attractive for him (it is a boy, right?), we need to move those sharp knives for some uncerteain time out of childrens' reach, so everybody stays safe. I would say that he is allowed to use knives when an adult is present. I would not punish him for that behaviour, because I think it can only harm his feelings and cripple his willing to co-operate in this matter. And you DO want him to co-operate, especially in such a serious matter like this.


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I saw my family doctor today. He isn't sure who would be the best specialist referral for ds2 (agrees with me that someone in the child psychiatry field is the way to go), but is going to make some calls. He said he's putting it on an "urgent" basis, and when I commented that I know that's hard, because there are a lot of these kids these days, and not enough resources, he said, "I'll see if I can call in some markers".  I mentioned the clinic I was talking about upthread, and he said, "I was thinking in that direction, too". So, hopefully, I'll hear something in the next couple of days.

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Oh, good.  I'm glad the doc seems to be on the same page. 

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This is wonderful, in SO many ways.


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I've been following this thread, but haven't had a chance to reply until now-- first of all, its awesome that you talked to the doc and that he is being responsive to your concerns and doing what he can, personally, to help.

 

Second of all, I just wanted to chime in with my opinion that I think you are probably the BEST mom possible for the son you described in your initial posts.  Full disclosure, I'm a neuropsychologist, so I have 100% respect for the severity of anxiety AND for the complexity of possible ADHD/behavior problems etc...so I am definitely NOT just blowing sunshine up your butt :)  Number one, since you are skeptical of the medical profession (yes, I realize that is putting it lightly!) when you DO move forward to try to work with medical professionals to help your DS- which you have already done- you in a GREAT position to be a selective and thoughtful consumer.  As long as you are able to weigh both sides of any issue and not just react from a place of your own anxiety and past experiences (or at least able to get other's opinions to balance out your own initial responses) then you are likely going to be in an excellent spot to avoid just "going  along" with what a doctor or therapist says because of their title.  This is a great asset to your son.  Second of all, I don't think that you'll have to give up all or even a lot of what makes your life feel special and meaningful to you and to your family, no matter what your son's diagnosis is... at least not for the long term.  I think that some of the fear you have about that may be lessened if you try to take a long-range view (easier said than done, I know) and try to imagine a year of several down the line when things are much better for all of you.  Your son may temporarily need increased structure, predictabilty, consequences etc. to help make up for impulse control and other issues (whatever the diagnosis is) but often the reigns can be loosened up after a while.  Some skills will be taught and maturity can often really help kids...and even though you may end up needing to make some long-term changes, I'd bet that you don't have to change *everything* and that your lifestyle and parenting style will actually be extremely helpful to your son.  For example, in terms of home schooling, you may end up having to be a bit more structured to make sure he gets any services he needs and/or gets certain academic info at a time/in a way that works best for him, but he's really, really going to benefit from the fact that you can build in unlimited movement/fun/physical activity breaks, can plan activities that are fun for him and rewarding and therefore act as easy reinforcement... you get my point.

 

Anyway, I'm so glad to see  your update.  Just take things one step at a time....

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SB, I just wanted to chime in and say that I agree with the others and I admire your strength and your love for your son. I know it isn't easy, but you're doing it. You're putting one foot in front of the other despite what must be an overwhelming challenge.Take credit for your actions and go easy on yourself for the days when it's harder to move forward. You are a great Mom and it's obvious you have the best interest of all you kids in mind. 
 


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Good job Lisa!  I'm hoping everything turns out well.  Lots of love!

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Thanks, all.

 

DS2 had a great day today. It's always terrific when that happens. :)

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I kept meaning to write on this thread. My little brother was like this. He would go get steak knives and even literally threaten us with them. "I'm going to kill you!" It was nuts. I boutght him a few fake wooden swords at a fair and that seemed to take his interest away. He is now a college student at a good university and is the sweetest most helpful man ever. HE has serious communication issues but hes worked around them. I'm sure he could have benefited from help as a kid but I wanted tot ell you he is pretty fine. He grew out of the knife thing in a span of 6 months.

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Just wanted to update...saw the first specialist (child psychiatrist) today. I actually didn't bring up autism, because I was just answering her questions. After having ds2 come in for a little bit, she brought up ASD, and advised me to do some reading on Aspergers. I'm seeing her (alone) again tomorrow, and she's planning to refer ds2 to the clinic I mentioned upthread. She said his behaviour is "quite typical" of kids with Aspergers.

 

So...not sure how long we'll be waitlisted once I see her tomorrow, but the wheels are turning a lot more quickly than the last time I tried this!

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Lisa, that sounds like great news. thumb.gif

 

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I'm so glad things are working out for you and your DS and I'm really happy to hear it's been much easier. Hugs Lisa!!!
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This is such great news. I wanted to suggest a place that helped our family as they specialize in autism and mental health challenges, The Pfeiffer Medical Center. They can help you get a handle on your son's particular biochemistry so you can know more specifically how to help him.

 

Others may have already said this, but a class for you son where he can build things might help.

 

And, I wonder, as he's more difficult in the morning if his blood sugar gets too low. Would it help if he had a snack right before bed or something set out to eat first thing in the morning.

 

I'm glad you're close to a disgnosis. It's a hard journey. I hope you can get some rest.

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This is such great news. I wanted to suggest a place that helped our family as they specialize in autism and mental health challenges, The Pfeiffer Medical Center. They can help you get a handle on your son's particular biochemistry so you can know more specifically how to help him.

Others may have already said this, but a class for you son where he can build things might help.

And, I wonder, as he's more difficult in the morning if his blood sugar gets too low. Would it help if he had a snack right before bed or something set out to eat first thing in the morning.

I'm glad you're close to a disgnosis. It's a hard journey. I hope you can get some rest.

Not sure if you noticed, but stormbride lives in Vancouver which is rather far from Illinois.

Stormbride, glad to hear things are going well for you!
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