I don't want to have to keep them separated..and I also don't want to helicopter over everytime they play or if she is playing with other kids. I need some advice, mamas.
Earth-loving, birth-loving, body-working, simple-livin' mama to two sweet girls and fiance to a hard-working man
Maybe you can help your old kid be more responsive to her sisters cues, needs etc or learn to distract her. you can also try to work out what is actually bothering her - seeing what problems occur regulary and try together with her to find a solution. you may need to use pictures or simple yes/no questions
I try to give them words, like empathize with them. "You look frustrated. Do you want your sister to move? You can say, 'move please' if you want her to move. But be gentle." And speaking in the positive (be gentle) seems to sometimes work better than speaking in the negative (don't hit.)
And of course consistency helps, as it does with most stuff. But to some extent it'll probably go away on its own as she develops the ability to tell people what she wants.
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