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My DD has picked up the not so cute habit of wanting to hit me while nursing. She started off smacking my chest, I think she thinks the thud sound is funny. I always tell her "no hitting, pat pat pat" and direct her hand to pat instead. A few times now she has hit me in the face while I'm nursing her in bed, essentially still asleep, in the morning.  Talk about a rude awakening! I'll either redirect and if she doesn't stop then I latch her off and she usually runs off to play.  Any suggestions?


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We went through that, lots of hard hitting my chest (same deal, enjoyed the sound) and also started to swat at the dogs/cats around that age.  So I started to teach her how to do different things like petting, patting with a soft open hand, touching with one finger, anything to get her to understand "gentle".  When she hit either me or the animals I'd look concerned and tell her how she was hurting.  Sometimes she'd laugh, in which case she wold get put down or in her crib/pack-n-play if if was the animals.  Took about a month for it to sink in.  Now if she does something, even on accident, I point it out, we talk about being careful, watching around us, etc, and ask her to apologize and give a hug or kiss.  She's starting to now initiate the apology sequence on her own, even if it's just a light tap so there is light at the end of the tunnel!  Now she also was a biter at that age (or began to when tantruming) and I would put her down and let her be, and the biting hasn't been too much of an issue recently thank god.

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For me, a wordless response has been the most effective response to this sort of thing. What I do/would do is just put the baby down immediately after a hit or bite and leave the room for a second. Hitting is an interesting thing because I have observed that it starts off innocuously enough often - little taps for attention and then, "Hey, that works great..."  If there is some hitting or biting or other negative ways of getting attention going on, I also try to be more aware of giving extra attention when those behaviors aren't happening. Good luck! 


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I did realize today that it seems to be an escalated response to me not being present and paying attention when nursing. If I'm all into the computer, etc, she will get rambunctious. She has a whole range of ways she now tries to get my attention while nursing, acrobatics, singing the alphabet, and now hitting.  I've always read while nursing and I guess she is letting me know she needs me to be present with her now.


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