I have a 3.5 year old son. Recently I find myself being the parent I didn't want to be that yells and even occasionally spanks. I rarely if ever did so with my oldest, but he pushes every button.Of course spanking makes me feel just horrible afterwards.; He is so very determined to annoy everyone in sight or just be plain mean for no reason. He will squeeze my 1 year old or trip her or shove her aside. He kicks and hits my 5 year old. He fights relentlessly with my niece, taking toys and hitting her. He doesn't listen at all to me most of the time, throws fits in public or refuses to walk or takes things off the shelf in stores and refuses to put it back etc. Some days he can be so sweet, but you never know whether it will be a good day or a bad day. Putting him in timeout does not work as it is just a game to him. There is really nothing I can take away that he cares enough about except maybe TV at bedtime but that would be torture for me when I'm dealing with the baby. I also struggle with doing that anyways since a punishment hours later just seems a bit much for a 3 year old. He starts preschool next month and I hope that helps, but I'm also in need of more techniques at home. I used to read these forums all the time when my oldest was little...but now I'm so busy I think I've gone away from everything I so wanted to do as far as gentle discipline is concerned.
Just wanted to offer a hug and some commiseration.
What's with 3 year olds??? We sailed through the "terrible" twos- three is suddenly HORRIBLE. Absolutely effing awful.
I'll be standing by for anyone who has a shred of advice to offer. In the meantime, let's both try to hang in there. Maybe four will be better?
Me 32, loving him 33, more each day. Rad boy, 7/12/10 & Cool gal 4/28/13
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