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#1 of 4 Old 11-01-2013, 10:59 PM - Thread Starter
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I have a question for moms out there who've been in public when their kiddos threw a tantrum or otherwise misbehaved in a public way.

I know that in a normal scenario, as an onlooker I'm supposed to just look the other way and go about my business.

However, what if I am engaged with the mom when it's happening?

This happens a lot at a local baby clothing store that allows the moms who work there to bring their toddlers. No matter who is there the kids seem to always be very dramatic trying to get mom's attention.

I want to say something to make these moms feel at ease, but I know I'd be mad if a stranger told my out-of-line kid "it's ok" when the behavior is not ok.

What would you say or do in this circumstance, would you still just pretend nothing is happening, or would you say something?

What if it's a friend whose kid is acting up while you are out together? Would you express sympathy, or just ignore the situation?

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I really feel sympathy when a expression of need comes out in the form of a tantrum. I have so been there! So if the parent is a friend I follow their lead, pat them on the shoulder, or give some support verbally. If the parent is a stranger, I usually say something like, "We've all been there, your doing fine." or something of the sort.

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I try to give mom a compassionate look/smile to say "been there, done that, I know how frustrating it is" if I catch her eye. I don't say anything during a tantrum since that will escalate some kids (like mine). If a mom apologizes during or after, I say something like "no worries. It's hard being a toddler/my girl has a rough time too/you handled it well" or something else encouraging and supportive but only if the mom initiates
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I always want to, but never do because I'm afraid it'll make matters worse or come across the wrong way. There needs to be a secret hand signal!
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