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ugh I am at my wits in with my daughter. she is 7 years old, and just refuses  to obey what I tell her. Its like she is fine until I have to give her her orders or when I give her a direction to do, she wont. She will make a fuss scream fight with me. She does this on a daily b asics, Yesterday for instance, we were coming from from school, I was going to get her an icecream, but she smarted off after I told her something. So I decided not to, so anyway she procedes to walk in the head of me, with people stopping to look at us in the street. So I am calling her to get her to come back to walk beside me and she just keeps ignoring me. anyway when I finally catch up with her.it gets worse, so much that a man thought he could interfer, I told him to but out and mind his own business.  We people here have s tarted to notice her behavior and have started to tell me maybe she is crazy and needs medicines. Well I told her to a doctor once, and he claimed it was a chemical imbalance, that could be cured in a few years with medicine. Well I tried the medicine, and honestly I did not like it, the first day she was like a zombie and was sleeping all the day  We are living in egypt, so they dont have the best of medical care here, the doctor was just not helpful at all. Anyway I took her off the medicine because I do not think she need it. So  I am just dealing with her own my own, as her father does not help and he is not involved much in her life. There have been a few problems and she has gone throught alot not only in her life but mine.

I do not want to spank her or hit her, as when I was smaller this was what happen to me with my parents mostly my step dad beating me. So i know what its like and I still have  emotional and physical problems dealing with that.   Right now I am trying time out, but even she refuses to do that. She will scream and kick and make a problem so much that I dont want to disturb the neighbors. Its like she thinks she can do what she wants wen she wants, and refuses to do even the slightest order.  And homework that is just and all day thing. when I start to tell her she needs to do home work omg it  just a battle she will pretend she is tired, so I  will try to tell her she can have so much time to finish a project and its like she will take  the rest of the evening to do it,and stall, I just dont know what to do any more, some times it leaves me in tears.

 

anyway  or suggestions would be appricated


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Get this book, read it, and use the methods:

 

http://alankazdin.com/the-kazdin-method-for-parenting-the-defiant-child-with-no-pills-no-therapy-no-contest-of-wills/

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thanks I will look in to it, and see if I can find it here.


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