Sometimes "rules" can help my kids achieve more parent desired behaviors.
We made three big family rules. Ours happen to be "inside voices", "gentle bodies", and "listen to words". You can adjust rules to your own needs of course, these are just the biggest and broadest most simplest ones I could come up with to tackle most of our current issues. My kids are 7, 4, and 2.5 and the older two are on the Autism spectrum.
I frequently do (or MUST) remind them of the rules. Sometimes it is like screaming at a deaf child but 75% of the time I have seen big improvement in behaviors when we go over and then constantly repeat the rules throughout whatever we must accomplish and even while at home.
Examples when to use "the rules":
Before leaving home, getting into car/on bus, arriving at destination, during transit to where you are going, while putting shoes on/readying to leave, sitting down at a restaurant table, any time they begin getting a tad too wild for your tastes, etc.
I also like to specifically call attention to the rules so that they understand what they are/are not supposed to be doing. Example:
, are you using inside voices right now?" or "Monkey #3
, is hitting your brother using gentle bodies? Are you following our rules?"
It takes a week or two to really start sticking with them.