Originally Posted by granolamommie
If he accidentally does and she says- I need to take a shower please give me some privacy- he says he doesn't have to and comes back. This is what is frustrating me, his lack of respect for others' space.
Is the problem restricted mostly to bed-time and bathroom related privacy issues? Or is he generally acting out?
Generally speaking what works best for my kids is to find some solutions to what their core needs and desires are. So, the first goal is to try to figure that out.
If the core issue was a lack of respect for personal space, I think I may consider going the empathetic route and really try to help him understand why the person needs that sort of privacy. I don't think it's necessarily intuitive.
Our family tends to be pretty open with the bathroom and personal space so I haven't had much experience with trying to help create privacy.
If my 12 year old decided that she wanted privacy and my toddler had trouble understanding that, I think maybe I would try to offer the toddler privacy and maybe make a deal out of whether she wanted it or not?
Maybe something like, "You know, it occurs to me that your sister really likes to use the bathroom all by herself but that may be confusing to you because you don't mind if we use the bathroom or supervise you while you bathe. Do you prefer privacy?"
But, as I say that it seems like you've probably had all sorts of conversations with him so maybe it's more impulse control combined with a developing sense of empathy (developmentally appropriate). And if that's the core issue, it's a different set of solutions.
In a 5 year old struggling with impulse control I think I would increase supervision and help create a period of success, lowering the sense of excitement, and perhaps giving more attention. Maybe offering to read a bit more or do something to help wind down more at bed time. At 5 I think if my DC was having trouble sleeping I probably stayed with her until she got into a better rhythm.
We tend to get pretty out of sleep rhythm in the summer so for us most sleep problems would probably be primarily related to excitement in the day, odd tiredness/second wind cycles, and light in the sky at bed time.
Hope some of that helps and you get more suggestions!